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First Date You have the nerve to ask and she has the time to accept. Where you go on the first date with her. Is it most important to impress her or is it best to get to know her as a person. Do you think should get romantic first date or is handshake ok with you? |
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3/22/2008 10:27 pm |
Belive me, I am very careful of what men say. I know that in this post it is mostly what men would like their ideal date to be like. But I don't date men from AFF, unless I really trust them. There is one person I sort of like and we have had several nice chats in the blog, plus he's local to me, in my age group, and we have sort of the same experiences. Thanks for the advise and I hope other people pay attention to men in Asia Friendfinder trolling for women. VICKY
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1/18/2008 4:52 pm |
Hey Vicki, I'm going to keep this kind of general. I think online interaction - IM'ing, emailing, etc. have smoothed the way for a first date somewhat in my experience. Compared to a phone call or brief encounter, a few IM or email exchanges can offer a light and fun way to establish commonality and a preliminary connection. So assuming I've had the pleasure of learning a little bit about the young lady I'm interested in, I would imagine a bunch of possibilities for where we could go on our first date tailored to her uniqueness... all, of course, invisible to her. Most importantly I want the young lady to feel special and learn who I am, and allow her the opportunity to feel comfortable to open up to me. I believe any respectable social gathering begins with a good meal - so dinner is may favorite place to start. Ideally, I would have subtly gleaned an idea of her taste in food prior to the date; then based on my knowledge of local dining, or Google, I'd picked a restaurant matching location, taste, and atmosphere. No need to show off, but it would be special. So dinner would probably take a big chunk of the evening, as I'm sure we would be engaged in deep, fascinating, and tantalizing conversation loosing all track of time. After dinner I would want to take her to do something interactive. Here I'm really flexible and might choose to improvise completely... a dance club is often a safe bet; maybe duck in to a swanky night club for drink or two; but I would probably go with taking her for a walk in some cool neighborhood in the City and just let our taste and whim decide what we do next. As for romance... OK you did specify the context that this is a date, which I will assume means going out with someone I'd want to see again... No matter how hot she is, or how splendid the chemistry, I would definitely keep things under control - no sex... yet. I'd take her home at a, somewhat, reasonable hour and accept a goodnight handshake, but a hug is best! This one has potential. Can I bring my cousins with me?
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1/17/2008 4:47 pm |
The thing that I miss the most about the Bay Areas is the diversified cultures. I miss walking through S.F China town open market and jogging across the Golden Gate Bridge. I enjoy dinning at the fancy Chinese Restaurant-especially dim sum. Hot pot city 2. Someday I hope you can join me. I am looking for a person who I can share my idea with and walk me through tough time if I happened to run into one. As far as for politic concern, I truly believe that only a white man or white woman should only become a president of United State. I may sound like a racist but I am not. I truly believe there only one race-that is a human race. Still, I don't believe coming to a white person's home and try to run his home. Go Hillary. Take care, always, steve thanks Oh, did I say I like President Regan? Yeah, he end the Cold War, something that weak willed lily livered lying liberals were not able to do since the end of World War II. And now look USA is in big trouble economic, diplomatic, and wartime. So peace in the homeland. So tell me why you think Black man cannot be president?
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1/17/2008 4:44 pm |
Gee, that's all you have to say? Why not check out my blog PRICE OF TEA IN CHINA and let's have conversation there. Show me what you have to say. That is not a good line to use to me.
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1/17/2008 4:43 pm |
Hey, dude, you wanna hang out at the mall this Saturday and watch me try on Victoria's Secret things? You mean that kinda encounter?
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1/17/2008 4:42 pm |
Hi Victory, Thank you for the compliment! FOr a first date I think its way more important to get to know you vs. trying to impress you. If the chemistry is there, even the silliest of jokes can make a person laugh and feel good. And, on the other hand, no matter how hard I try and regardless of how much money I spend, if you don't "feel it" your not going to want a second date. That said, a first date is going to be unique to you and I. We would have to talk and explore just a little to see what options are best. i.e. are you an outdoorsy type? then maybe a ski trip (one day) might be a blast. It would keep us close and give us a chance to talk and laugh while riding the ski-lift, yet allow us to get out and focus on an activity and let us get a bit of a workout too. There is the lodge, and bar, where we could end the day with a great meal and a drink in front of the large fire to relax together and really get to know each other following a day of fun. Or, do you like performing arts? taking in an opera, symphony would be a very nice way to spend a few hours together, dinner before to share thought and see if there is chemistry between us. As far as romance on a first date, I think if you simply feel attracted to another person then soft touches, to the hands or waist if you sit together are fine. Kissing is also ok as long as its done in good taste. if your in public, soft kisses, if you want more, be discreet. Sex on the first date is OUT if you really want to find a solid relationship. But in general, public affection is fine. To see if you would want a second date, to see me again. I think you just know when the person your with wants more of your time. but just in case, I will offer you my number and an invitation to call/go out again soon.. I would give you my number so that you are both in control of a second meeting and that you also don't have to worry about your number going out when you may not be sure. You sent me the email this Sat.. if you care to talk more as we did then, feel free to send me another note, Billy
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1/17/2008 4:41 pm |
Well Jim you know have to wash socks or staring to get stinky so not there now but maybe next time. But is true just chat. Dinner, not really interested dinner somehwere cause you be starving next few weeks so maybe someplace with lots of people we meet there for maybe burgers or something like that anyway I cheap date anyway just like maybe salad and tea. Meeting with a person first time is always constructive cause then you gonna know if you like that person on not. Never can tell if that person is good or bad from first date too since everybody gonna be on good behaviro, right? So you don't wanna tell me where to go on 2nd date? That's ok, how about ride on ferry to Sausalito and buy me lunch there. Nice place to go walking around and chatting. Vicky
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1/17/2008 4:37 pm |
Ok meeting is illusion. I say, hey you gonna meet me at Starbucks have coffee lets chat ok? And you come there and we just chatting whatever is headlines on NY Times, ok? and pretty soon time for me go leaving, you gonna say to me and I gonna belive you saying, oh Vicky, I love you and marry me? Actually, if I meeting someone is not gonna be for romance at all just for the conversation.
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1/17/2008 6:10 am |
The thing that I miss the most about the Bay Areas is the diversified cultures. I miss walking through S.F China town open market and jogging across the Golden Gate Bridge. I enjoy dinning at the fancy Chinese Restaurant-especially dim sum. Hot pot city 2. Someday I hope you can join me. I am looking for a person who I can share my idea with and walk me through tough time if I happened to run into one. As far as for politic concern, I truly believe that only a white man or white woman should only become a president of United State. I may sound like a racist but I am not. I truly believe there only one race-that is a human race. Still, I don't believe coming to a white person's home and try to run his home. Go Hillary. Take care, always, steve thanks
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1/16/2008 7:27 pm |
I love malls, really great idea. By the way, how high is your credit limit? I like Victoria's Secret.
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1/14/2008 2:37 pm |
I thought 2nd story man is man with 2nd story if wife/gf/bf not belive the 1st story 
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1/14/2008 1:47 pm |
Hi Victory, Thank you for the compliment! FOr a first date I think its way more important to get to know you vs. trying to impress you. If the chemistry is there, even the silliest of jokes can make a person laugh and feel good. And, on the other hand, no matter how hard I try and regardless of how much money I spend, if you don't "feel it" your not going to want a second date. That said, a first date is going to be unique to you and I. We would have to talk and explore just a little to see what options are best. i.e. are you an outdoorsy type? then maybe a ski trip (one day) might be a blast. It would keep us close and give us a chance to talk and laugh while riding the ski-lift, yet allow us to get out and focus on an activity and let us get a bit of a workout too. There is the lodge, and bar, where we could end the day with a great meal and a drink in front of the large fire to relax together and really get to know each other following a day of fun. Or, do you like performing arts? taking in an opera, symphony would be a very nice way to spend a few hours together, dinner before to share thought and see if there is chemistry between us. As far as romance on a first date, I think if you simply feel attracted to another person then soft touches, to the hands or waist if you sit together are fine. Kissing is also ok as long as its done in good taste. if your in public, soft kisses, if you want more, be discreet. Sex on the first date is OUT if you really want to find a solid relationship. But in general, public affection is fine. To see if you would want a second date, to see me again. I think you just know when the person your with wants more of your time. but just in case, I will offer you my number and an invitation to call/go out again soon.. I would give you my number so that you are both in control of a second meeting and that you also don't have to worry about your number going out when you may not be sure. You sent me the email this Sat.. if you care to talk more as we did then, feel free to send me another note, Billy
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1/13/2008 4:24 pm |
"the handshake" or "the kiss" should be something both of them agree and flow with.. not one dictating what it should be to the other.. but both feeling comfortable with what ever it results to be.. these are question relative to adults not teenagers... so if they are adults who actually communicate then what is appropriate will reveal itself during the date.. why leave is so vague as if to summarize the date by the act at parting at the end of the date.. both should be clear about what the result of the date is to each otherm and why not communicate that unto each other and .. end the date with understanding.. not some big mystery scenario.. of them then trying to figure out what the handshake means or what the kiss mean... leave that stuff for kids.. as adults leave knowing what you think of each other in honesty real time realizing... if one or the other is looking for mystery.. then they can have that without going on a date.. by sitting home wonder what the other thinks of them... why have a date and go home wondering that.. when you can resolve it on the date. people create delusion of some trumped up romantic drama.. of which so many people thrive on .. and go home making a million assumptions or calling friends asking.. "what did this mean, what did that mean.. and then come up with a whole line of crap that invades the mind and makes a delirium of sorts.
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1/13/2008 3:25 pm |
first offr why is the date all about her... it should be that she as well needs to show him her own self and she should care to know him as much as he cares to know her.. or else.. why are they on a date.. when people stop the butt kissing process of what they term a date then maybe it may be people can do things together.. men trying to impress her when she is not trying to impress him the same.. become nothing but a potential "easy pickin target'.. no.. she can contribute as well.. maybe they should go "dutch" and both pay.. since they don't know each other.. what does she have that commands that he pay unless she's selling something instead of sharing a date.. people start it off with this pay her to show up tye of scenario.. then it is a standard man buy woman scenario and woman sells time to man scenario.. then they will forever have a bargain relationships where she is groomed to expect him to provide her entertainment and to pay for it and nearly beg her to participate.. that's not sharing a date that's a business arrangment. people forget this is not the 18th century.. women now work they earn money... so you need not pay her to be with you..as if this is some old age.. woman seeking security, rather than woman sharing with man... that's why so many women maintain that pros*titute like mentality when they deal with men.
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1/13/2008 1:40 pm |
It is best to get to know her and since I like to be intimate rather than just having seks, I really need to know who the lady is and connect with her first. Coffee or tea at a local coffee shop is casual and a good place to communicate on a first date. a student of life 
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1/12/2008 10:28 am |
Okay. This sounds fun. Let me take a shot. Pending on the atmosphere, I would like to go to a karaoke bar & grill. This would be a social friendly environment without the pressure of formal etiquette dinner and trying to do everything to impress and please the lady. It would give a chance for both parties to be themselves. Where' the romance?  ) Nothing like senerading your date with a embarassing (unless you have a knack for singing) rendition of "Looks like we made it" or "Endless Love". If the party can tolerate your passion for singing, that a keeper for life!!I rather have the handshake first. Physical attractions will always be there, but these days in age, its getting harder and harder to find compability. Hence, I think the reason why I'm here and other busy professional lads. And if things don't turn out the what you've hoped and the connection is not there, then the worst outcome is that you have fun and entertaining nite for yourself. Cheers Thanh
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1/12/2008 9:58 am |
Whatever she desires!Both a hand shake,and romance are alright by me.Or...atleast it used to be,with me.When that day should come,what will be acceptable,could be different.
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