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Define Yourself My favorite quote. "Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life; define yourself." Harvey Fierstein. I was thinking last night that I need a New Years resolution. Besides the obvious things like stop my bad habits, eat better, exercise more, workharder, I wanted a resolution that would mean something to me. I thought over the past year and thought of the areas that were trouble for me. Such areas were being silenced, being a victim, and allowing other people to dictate my actions. So basically, the exact opposite of the quote. It made sense for my resolution to be live by that quote. I'm learning to live for myself, not others; not allow people to silence me; not doing what other people think I should do. I'm tired of being pushed around and its time to take action!! Vicky's Resolution for 2008: not allowing myself to be silenced, never allowing myself to become a victim, and not accepting other people's definition of my life, but defining myself. VICKY |
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1/26/2008 4:13 am |
Notice how everyone pigeon holes things as a form of generalisation? I have been told i am a good listener and in my life I always seek to express options and solutions to everything. To place me in a box and say he is in a "mid life crisis" (hereinafter referred to as MLC) is too easy an explanation. i find there are much more than just one type of mid life crisis. Career vs relationships vs where you wanted to go in life vs i wish I travelled more vs I should have had kids by now. I am sure other people here can name a few more other ones. But I dislike how some people just brush these things off and say you are in a MLC - go see a quack (counsellor) when all that is needed is support from their close friends (in the same age group preferably) to help them work things out for the next year or taking it one day at a time. Hence their lifes can be so so much fulfilling and enjoyable. What do you think? i believe new years resolutions/goals/career directions should not be made on NYE or NYD but on your birthday as it means much more to you than just another year but thats my opinion. Try it and see. with the exceptions to those born on January 1st    I am too young for mid life crisis but I guess that something I should be planning for a few years from now. Not sure how a woman handles it. But I don't think you wanna be around when it happens to her. V
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1/26/2008 4:10 am |
Individualism is very rare i find these days. A sense of identity and believing in what you believe without being silenced by other pressures. Take Burma for example. Is change good or bad? People my age are categorized with "mid life crisis". I really hate stereotypes but as they also say the best form of flattery is imitation. Some quotes are also self contradictory I find. Take for example "Many hands make light work" but there is the counter "Too many cooks spoil the broth". I wish they would make up their mind hee hee Well is best to only have one cook when making the baby  other wise never can tell whose kid it is.VICKY
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1/24/2008 10:11 pm |
Hey...Lee.... Aiyaaaa !!!!! no la.... What I am trying to say is , some people are looking for fight and their principal is to get people down , or else, it will be eyes for eyes policy. If you are in this case, please dont bring yourself down to the same level.But use your style and wisdom . All you will do is to look over it and ignore.Define yourself is to let no one stop you and no one make you except your dear one who treat you with respect. Period. Do you agree ? God Bless  Rejoicefrance  That is true. If have discussion with other person and I seeing no use to continue I just walking away. I meaning is only one life to living so why even bother being upset right? If bad relationship then just walk away. But "Do onto others" meaning is I am a nice person, really, so I hoping others is nice to me too. VICKY
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1/24/2008 12:03 am |
Hey..... Lee.... Of course, it is the basis lesson that we have learnt even when we were kid.It is called self-respect. But stand firm to those who dont know what this quote is all about. Then it is time to show your wisdom not doing the other way around . You catch my meaning ????  Or, I am the one who dont catch you meaning la.  Remember, you could never win with the wicked and vulgar person.It is not your style to fight back.My parents always taught us about this principal.But you may not agree.God Bless Rejoicefrance The other way to say that is "Do onto others before they do onto you." That has a lot of meanings, right? Some nice and maybe not so nice. It depending on situation maybe. VICKY
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1/23/2008 9:52 pm |
Bonsoir..... Lee.... Yes, you are..... I can see that you have hold your own in any situation . You have style and grace....Make sure dont let them intimidate you or overpower you in your belief of life value. Dont lose your soul.Let your inner soul flows as well. I just love it. Bonne soiree God Bless Rejoicefrance But I also believing "Do onto others as your would have them do to you." VICKY
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