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你責怪男人嗎？(Do You Blame All Men?) Today, I decided reading some of hundreds of emails I received that showed the guy had gotten my "automatic reply" asking them to read my blog and comment there cause I don't wanna read anymore email about "good looking, sexy, or do you wanna fxxk." There are lots comments saying they not looking for confrontational woman or woman who have too many opinions. And some after they reading my automatic reply or my blog saying I not the kind of Asian woman they looking for. Hmmmmmmmmm. I save that one for another posting. However, most of all they saying after reading that I blaming mans for the way I feeling about the relationships. I do not. I only have one boyfriend and one frightful date but that is not enough to say that I hating all mans. I just curious girl and just like asking questions or framing discussion so can learning more. So I wondering, do woman's really blame all mans when have bad relationship with one man? VICKY |
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1/28/2008 4:59 pm |
Its easy to say "we have nothing to fear but fear itself" however, when you have been through a scary or traumatic experience, it is not easy to overcome it. The trust then in other people is very hard to regain and also it takes a long time to forget let alone overcome it. I sympathise. I have had a lot of traumatic experiences from being in a car crash, back operation, violent ex, and being stranded in the middle of nowhere. It makes you a tougher person but also thankful for what you have in life already. I am thankful for a caring family. I could have said I dislike women for playing with my heart and mind but that would be anti-me as I would then be stereotypical and pigeon hole people into categories. thats just not me. I am much much more worldly than that. Every where I travel, I gain new friends - everyone sees that I have something to offer and they remark that I have an easygoing, worldly view but I trust my instincts and gut feelings as well on whom to trust. I really like meeting the new people we doing business with and I seldom can saying I am making the new friends but more like making the business relations. But I noticing that every where we going peoples are really nice to us and we try to be nice to them too. But when we have to go to someplace we never been before we hiring the hotel limo driver take us there instead of the lccal cab that way we have someone we can trusting. And sorry about your car crash and the bad experience to you. I know how scarty that can be and maybe sometimes you don't wanna be in the same care with another driver who driving a little crazy, you know like Asian woman just learing how to driving the car for the first time. VICKY
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1/28/2008 4:55 pm |
Is true that peoples fearing the unknowns but you know that is not blaming. What some womans blames is the bad treatment of one mans to them and then they thinking that all mans is that way. I don't. But one of the things I doing now is getting to know the person really good and feeling comfortable with that person and my sisters and friends also feeling comfortable cause they also doing some of the screening for me cause they older then me and so have lots more of the experience. So if they not feeling comfortable then they telling me not seeing thet person anymore. Someone asking why I can't make up my mind and I can only saying that I judge the people I calling my friends and I know they gonna look out for me first.
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You are not a blonde, so serve him with the same sauce!
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1/26/2008 4:26 pm |
It's very easy to hate an entire group of people after having had a bad experience. In an analogous sense, consider how much humans fear spiders. This is an unwarranted fear, since only 20 of the 33,800 poisonous species can hurt humans. My point is that it's easier to hate or fear wholesale (in large quantities). So, if you're a woman that has been nearly or otherwise physically abused, then it is easier for you to hate all men. This provides for protection, since it does not discriminate. However, an equally distributed hatred of all males will only help your mind make many false assumptions, since not all men are worth hating. In my case, I was lied to by a woman when I was 28 years old. I thought she liked me, but she was playing some strange trick on me. I felt like hating all women equally after that instance and I was quite bitter for some time. But I know that it is wrong to hate all women, since some of them are actually mature.
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