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Annoying Letters Do you ever get a one-liner email from some who claims they are your perfect match and they want to be the father of your ? You block their handle and then a week later they are back with a new handle sending you same junk mail again. Or how about the guys who are in prison and wanting someone to write to. I often google the hometown of writers to me and discover that some sort of prison is located in their listed hometown. I ask them to send me a dated photo of themselves next to a tree and have never received one at all. Geesh!!! And there are those guys who are old enough to be my father. Why would I want some old geezer for a husband? Or someone who cannot even write a decent letter of introduction? I guess no one ever really reads a profile. They just look at the picture and that is the deciding factor for them to write. Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t mind having a conversation with someone older then me but it’s not an invitation to share my bed or body. I have certain expectations and requirements and frankly, I sincerely doubt I’m going to meet the right person here in AFF. So far, I haven’t seen a single eligible person who really knows what I’m interested in or can even discuss the kind of things I enjoy doing, including the research I’m doing. There are a few though whose blogs I enjoy reading or exchanging comments with and I do consider those people my cyber friends. VICKY |
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8/6/2008 5:57 pm |
I think I am more polite these days when I respond to individuals whom I don't feel comfortable with. I don't slam them like I used to. I thank them for their interest and wish them well. Here is the problem. I don't know how or why people think that because they like what I write or say and what I look like makes me the prime candidate for their fantasy of fulfilling their own expectations of love and romance. Believe me, I'm not going to be the dream girl they've been waiting for all of their life. For one thing, they are not going to be my primary interest nor will they receive 100% of my attention. Also, I don't have any intention at all of conforming to whatever expectations they might have of an "oriental doll" (someone called me that) ready to do their bidding. Not me. There are some individuals out there with whom I have been having a great time corresponding and chatting with because they provide me with an opportunity to exchange ideas. But in the end, there are nice people trying to find nice people here in AFF. It's just the ones who cannot take "no" for an answer I have problems with.
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8/5/2008 5:23 pm |
you are not the only one sharing in the disappointment... only recently did i venture into the online dating scene, on this site, and another. at least your responses are from real people. sadly, i've found that half of my responses are from scammers just trying to get my credit card number, another 25% are people misrepresenting themselves in one way or another, and probably half of the remaining 25% are just not compatible, despite what they list on a profile. my faith in humanity has taken another hit, but i'm not ready to give up, yet. like the old saying goes: cast a wide net. eventually you will find the one you're looking for. (at least, i still believe this at the moment...) i have to say, you are one of the most intelligent, well read, and articulate women i've run across around here. i don't think we'd agree on politics, but i'd rather have a stimulating intellectual discussion with a woman, rather than someone who nods in agreement to whatever i say. i find intelligence immensely attractive, as i'm sure your other readers do, too.
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8/4/2008 2:04 am |
You shall not complain, Vicky. Nothing is perfect in reality. If we want to find a pearl, we've got to look though many grains of sand. We have to respect the law of probability distribution. I don't know about your research field. In my field, most literatures are junks while a very small portion are masterpieces. Meeting the right person, would the chance be better or worse in AFF? I guess it would be as low as anywhere else. So, wish you the best of luck.
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8/1/2008 2:19 pm |
Come on, Vicky. You've been in college for a third of your life, you've traveled the world and you've got enough books and specialized topics of research to keep your brilliant mind purring for decades to come. I share your doubt that you'll meet the right man here. But considering all that you already have, all your personal ambition, what do you really want a man for? I just remembered that I live in a city with a prison in it. Hmmm ... ~ Brian
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