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what do you think it takes to keep a relationship "vibrant" FIND STUFF TO LAUGH ABOUT.. AND ACTUALLY LAUGH ABOUT IT.. there are still a lot of guys who think marriage means they own the woman.. and women don't want to be owned the way they want to own them.. may not that some believe it..but there are men that don't even want women to say anything at anytime but what he wants her to say.. I think if I was a woman, and someone looked at me everyday .. as if to say.. "where's dinner".. I don't think I'd like it very much at least not after a while.. I really don't understand in the households where both work.. that the more men don't cook at times.. but I know there are a lot of relationships where the men do all the cooking. I don't mind cooking.. I don't like women in those sack dresses with rollers in her hair all day .... but some of the "fine" one's .. there are some kinds of sack dresses that might be ok, at times... if she got nice legs and a nice butt,.. and not those really huge breast that just get all over the place in the way.. people after a while forget that they still have to do stuff to look good to each other.. and they still have to be nice to each other.. and they still have to do little surprise things for each other.. but the women today are not going to be like some personal housekeeper, who provides bedroom service too.. and then is treated like hired help.. and a personal valet... and act like a personal counselor who listens to your daily trips and issues. really, if you want to stay married.. then you best do some of the same nature of things during the relationship that you did, while you were asking and making efforts to woo and gain the relationship.. when the woman stops making herself up for you before you get home.. or get's up and drag around and don't spend time to spruce herself up.. it's a signal that she is feeling less and less appreciated.... but if you notcie.. when you show them appreciation.. they always do something extra to spruce herself up a bit for you, and she fluffs her hair.. shows a little leg, and makes sure that the butt is flaunted a bit here and there.. and on random occassions give you that little flirty flash of a view... at any old random time.. and they even sneak a look at you with that little ticklish smile on her face.. women like to laugh... and they like you do do little silly stuff at times and they like to do little silly stuff at times.. sometimes when you think you are pissed off and mad about stuff.. you got to know how to break in the middle of that sometimes and just laugh.. then women know you don't take everything so serious that you become a tight ass...and when you are walking thru the house.. you got to not get too comfortable that you forget to grab a little booty when you pass by her sometimes... and catch her at times when she's getting dressed and ... do a little touch up work... right in the middle of her getting dressed. and you got to know when to talk a little smack... such as.. " get that booty over here!!! Now !! lay it up against this wall".. whamo!!! and you each go on about your daily business... people get too stoic in their relationships and become as if they are too grown up.. to have fun with each other.. and then the thing starts to fall apart.. because it's too rigid and too much driven as if it's like being on a job.. waiting on a whistle to blow for break time.. you got to do funny stuff.. and not forget that you are together to enjoy each other and share living and stuff with each other.. and HAVE FUN with each other.. I had a girlfriend once, who'd run in the bathroom when I get ready to use it, and all she wanted to do was hold it while I take a leak... she thought it was the funniest thing to do .. she'd even get out the bed at night sometimes, and run up behind me and hold it if I had to go at night. think about it.. how many people over 30 ever go out in the back yard and roll around for a couple minutes wrestling on the grass in the summer... playing like two . but you see some couples they can joke with each other, and and make fun of silly stuff the other does.. and they don't get so stoic.. that they are formal about everything. even people with .. have better adjusted .. who have that grow up seeing their parents still joking and playing and having fun with each other. but the mal-adjusted grow up seeing their parents acting like two office workers always driven, like everything is a task.. and their only talk is about.. did you do this, did you take care of that, did you forget to do this or that... as if everything is a life or death responsibility.. you got to have fun.. and never let the in you grow old.. and die out. |
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1/6/2008 11:52 am |
Is simple answer. Good vibrations. Girl can find at local adult toy store.
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1/6/2008 12:18 pm |
yes.... and I'll help her shop...
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1/6/2008 12:29 pm |
true as life is... people need to get loose with each other.. and do as much "vibrating and working with the pleasure garden" in every way they can imagine to consider to do so".. and do it as often as they can .. it's a fact that the couples who get that wild thing going.. have more fun and make their relations stay alive... it's evident that when a man gets with a woman... he needs to know that she likes it as much as he does and many times.. she likes it even more and can think of many more creative things.. if he is open to her to introduce her brand of erotica.. there's not much women won't try and there's not much they don't like to try..they may like to keep that public image low profile.. but they want that bedroom thing to have as much as expanse as life can hold.. I personally have never been with a woman who was not open to try anything I could imagine to try.. as long as she knew she could do so and not have to feel inhibited.. this is the kind of woman I like .. and it's within every women.. if the man is darring enough to indulge her .. a lot of these women who leave guys show him in many ways she will put up with a lot of stuff but she is not going to keep putting up with it when she's not getting that boat rocked and some of that mind blowing pleasure to come along with it.. many womens imagination of stuff to do is much more expansive than some men.. but they like to get their stuff worked on for long length of time .. not just quick hit and run.. I've found reality is.. the more they know they can relax and get as much as they want and be comfortable to talk about how they want it when they want it a certain way.. they are comfortable to do so... I'd say to any man.. relax.. and let her show you how much she likes what she likes. I'd like to build a woman a nice rocking horse with full gadgetry...  but people can be so prudish sometimes.. all for the sake of public imagery.. some of the prettiest women like some of the most creative stuff imaginable... and men may need to consider to mix some of that in his program..
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1/6/2008 1:45 pm |
for me a pretty, thin happy bi girl who likes a little of this and that and enjoys all kinds of stuff.. would probably make a good relationship.. and if I have to have one that is a junkie for anything.. then being a pleasure junkie would probably be the suitable choice. if people pay attention.. after a relationship breaks up.. when the woman chooses .. or during the interim of choosing again.. they make sure they find someone that will rock that boat like a mad man... and all that pent up passion they want to get it exercised.. there are many many women who stay single becase they can get the buzz on.. and not have to put up with someone that is too controlling.. but if they find someone that flows with them.. and can give them some of that earth shaking good activity.. they will stay!!! it's kinda sad at times that so many women have to play that coy role before guys appreciate them.. and then some get stuck in situations that the guy don't try enough stuff to get that fir style of her passion it's flow.. and some just accept that's how it is and settle for the other parts of the relationship that works.. all those women that get turned off by sex.. I think some of them have never been in situations where they could get the supporting feedback to help them relax with the liking of their own passions.. but some of those who have that semi homely look.. are dynamic to the max in situation when the lights go out and the door is closed and sometime they don't want the lights out nor the door closed. but I've never seen one that did not like to be turned out in the bedroom, as long as she is treated nice when out in public and in general.. no matter how freaky things get.. they still want the nice side of treatment... and if some men figure that out.. they may even get to see the real deal of what he's got. 
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1/6/2008 6:02 pm |
....wham! alonso....very well said indeed "... people after a while forget that they still have to do stuff to look good to each other.. and they still have to be nice to each other.. and they still have to do little surprise things for each other.. but the women today are not going to be like some personal housekeeper, who provides bedroom service too.. and then is treated like hired help.. and a personal valet... and act like a personal counselor who listens to your daily trips and issues.....women like to laugh... and they like you do do little silly stuff at times and they like to do little silly stuff at times.. sometimes when you think you are pissed off and mad about stuff.. you got to know how to break in the middle of that sometimes and just laugh.. then women know you don't take everything so serious that you become a tight ass...and when you are walking thru the house.. you got to not get too comfortable that you forget to grab a little booty when you pass by her sometimes... and catch her at times when she's getting dressed and ... do a little touch up work... right in the middle of her getting dressed. and you got to know when to talk a little smack... such as.. " get that booty over here!!! Now !! lay it up against this wall".. whamo!!! " this is excellent advice alonso.....plus apos said give her some $$ to spend.. well, my woman boast to everyone i did all her shopping incl all toiletries ..except shoes where she had to try on or hairdos (which i go and wait for hrs)....and her friends said she is so lucky.... and yes i own the kitchen. but you are rite absolutely alonso on what u just said above..that we often take things for granted esp in our youth of our 30s and 40s yo days when we are men compete in the market to bring up families and provide the best we could
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hmmm, you seem to have a very good understanding of woman`s need, I like the way you describe a woman`s passion, etc. and indeed, it`s very true, wish many men are as sensitive as you... Just came here to say hello Have a wonderful day! Grace
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1/8/2008 9:05 am |
there's many things about women and their passions which would amaze many men if they stop looking at women as if they have tome 'mother fixation" about whom she is.. it's fine respect her with that nature of respect one would give their moth.. but when it comes to the real deal.. consider it raw and natural male-female , strip down naturally basic man-woman , lovers and tempters and temptress , friend-lover, Lover-friend , male-female play mate , Freak buddies , adventurers , help mates , dream building team , investment buddies , silly buddies , sex maniacs partners , and all that kind of stuff.. and then some become too mother and father to their kids, parents within their family, home-makers and home up-keepers, and all these roles are part of it.. and you can't just put one role on hold and forget that all these roles are there and they don't fall into in particular order and stay there.. it is continually changing and being random in how it comes into play.. and in the big picture.. maybe each stop taking themselves so serious.. and relax.. it's only life.. and people have been engaging life since the beginning of life.. we are not some perfect being, we are going to be at time not the effeciency master, nor the perfect responsibility master, we will at time be piggish about stuff, and we will be callous about stuff and we will be overly sensitive about stuff... and we need to give not just the other but ourselves the allowance to be such ... and moreso the understanding that we are of such.. I think we forget.. that life is to be enjoyed.. once the basics are met of food, water and shelter, and mate choice.. everything else is a luxury and convenience.. pend our lives trying to accumulate stuff.. and that stuff is just stuff, some of it we don't even have time to deal with and over time some of it ends up in the attic or the garage.. or given to the goodwill.. now if we know that.. maybe we can relax about trying to accumulate stuff.. and we might not loost that urge to rock the hell out of that boat.. you ever see those old couples that still fondle each other.. and some old couples act like just two house buddies.. and some act like two strangers.. that in dire situations will be pushed to show care for each other.. if you want a good relation.. then it .. is about making it a fun relation.. not one laden with actions of a factory worker type of responsibility.. we have enough of that when we go to work.. remember the post how to be a nice guy.. it's funny but some of it does apply.. how TO BE A NICE GUY here's some funny post; Secrets are you too uptight to laugh can you see beyond your romanticized concepts Meeting People then Making Friends how do we go about it Being A Great Lover NOthing is Free Pleasure me and You Oh yea and sex
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