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Adult Friendfinders--- I had joined one other time and then I never really visited the site.. I put a profile on there tonight.. and it's kinda interesting in the fact that the contrast between this site is .. like this site is with a lot of "conservative minded people".. where as that site has a lot of liberal minded people".. and the distinctions I see on qick glance.. is they don't seem to be as inhibited about things nor are they as prone to "pretend " they are so non s8x as the people in this site.. it can be a matter of differences in discretion.. but what I find about that is .. the more discreet people try to be sometimes the more inhibited they become.. and then they build so much pent up stuff in them till they have different variables of mindset.. but I'd bet people find the same realities that are very common on both sites... when actuality is dealt with.. in here some women act like they think they are doing something by acting like they are denying something to men, with their criteria and mindsets.. where the others site is more talking about what they want to share... and as people.. none of them in either site want to be any less appreciated.. they seem to realize that they only deny themselves equally so, in their efforts to try and deny sharing things and life and meeting and greeting and whatever with men.. but at least they don't block what you write.. this site blocks stuff as if we are a bunch of .. they also have more chinese women seeking women than chinese women seeking men.. but the women that are seeking men are very pretty women .. I like the open minded women.. who don't trip.. it's more natural to what is real life.. but I'll check it out and see what other thoughts I can see of differences... |
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1/10/2008 10:52 pm |
I asking the question about blocking before to Asia Friendfinder and they saying that much of their business is in China and there they gonna block the content cause maybe is too liberal in the sex stuff so is not good. Most western guys joining here in the Asia Friendfinder cause they want to finding Asian girlfriend or wife or sex slave so they needing Asian woman joining for then have cuties for western guys to writing and Asia Friendfinder can making lots of money from the western guys cause the Asian woman not gonna pay a whole year salary just to joining this website. So is important not to let this site become another adult sexual site that maybe Chinese government gonna censor. Also since adult friendfinder is mostly western people not need to worry about the Chinese censors. Make sense to you now? Here is still forcing to play the polite game when meeting people first time. You know in the Asia Friendfinder email there is no rules at all I know cause I getting lots of the obscene emails from total strangers and no way to blocking them at all so that is why I not answering them anymores just telling them they want to chat to me then have to do in my blog that way their nasty email gonna be censored by AFF.
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1/11/2008 12:26 pm |
I asking the question about blocking before to Asia Friendfinder and they saying that much of their business is in China and there they gonna block the content cause maybe is too liberal in the sex stuff so is not good. Most western guys joining here in the Asia Friendfinder cause they want to finding Asian girlfriend or wife or sex slave so they needing Asian woman joining for then have cuties for western guys to writing and Asia Friendfinder can making lots of money from the western guys cause the Asian woman not gonna pay a whole year salary just to joining this website. So is important not to let this site become another adult sexual site that maybe Chinese government gonna censor. Also since adult friendfinder is mostly western people not need to worry about the Chinese censors. Make sense to you now? Here is still forcing to play the polite game when meeting people first time. You know in the Asia Friendfinder email there is no rules at all I know cause I getting lots of the obscene emails from total strangers and no way to blocking them at all so that is why I not answering them anymores just telling them they want to chat to me then have to do in my blog that way their nasty email gonna be censored by AFF.
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1/11/2008 2:16 pm |
it's not a matter of goal.. in the sense of dire mate search.. mostly what I do here is write.. so there.. it's just a matter of engaging a different set of concepts and perspective of what is within the whole of life... people who want stable relations and people who play.. have something in common.. they are engaging life...but there is always an underlying factor.. is people want respect.. and there's a matter of being able to discuss with people who care about respect of person.. as for sex.. if I don't appreciate and respect the woman as an individual, and my motivation is not to give and share pleasure in and thru appreciation.. I don't mess with them anyway.. because I don't have concerns to want to use anyone.. as for the s*x aspect.. I care to meet women here or where ever that know what they like of their passions and know whether they enjoy exploring it and sharing it.. as for the matter of what is love.. love is the reality of two people realizing appreciations about each other... now how long is last.. none can measure nor control.. if so everyone that started out with some to die for love.. would still be together, and everyone who ever made a baby together would still be together.. but that's not reality.. people flow in the changes that make up whom they are.. and those don't always make it to the sea... like a river that flows.. it may split and become many different rivers and maybe even streams before it reaches the sea and one river never knows when the other river reaches the sea.. and that's how relationship are... which simply means nothing is forever, and things have their time and their season... and we can't dictate it.. no matter how much we may desire forever with anyone.. Life is a funny thing.. most people get so into loving each other they squeeze god out of the middle.. and then their buffer is gone and the elements of spirituality that keeps them invidiausla and yet bonds them as a pair is pushed asked.. and then that relations has the crashing and banging and bumping into one another in ways that it's constant friction.. and they may part of one may depart.. and so.. in life.. the realization of the spiritual nature that bonds us is what we must love through then we each remain the individual we are and unify within the point of spirit.. we may have better relationships... and we may be able to manage many types and manners and even depths of various relationships. think about it .. the women mention in the above posting did not love her husband any less becase she also liked women and had lovers thru her times.. she still remained with her husband, but her lovers also understood that and they met an agreement on that which is why they could last for year at a time..or whatever... the only factor in that is .. she maybe should have found a way to share the whole of herself with her husband.. and help him understand that is what she too likes, but it does not mean she likes him any less. the same thing with the guy who found his wife in the brothel.. he can't condemn her becase he was there too.. they should have tlaked about it and come to terms that both of them like a little but different stuff in the mix and they probably could have had a great relationship with enough openness to accommodate both of them and give them even more to share than they had before.. I once had a girlfriend who liked girls too.. and I told her that.. the main thing that's important is that we know we are together because we want to be .. if we know that then we should be able to engage pleasure without pleasures eroding that.. as long as we talk about what is in our minds and share what is within our thoughts and desires.. then we can do anything we want to do..and and share it without anyone thinking less of the other or passing judgments on the other.. it's not like I'm going to panic becase she has a clim*x with a woman.. my thought about that is .. why are you doing it if you are not going to clim*x... so the point is to enjoy it to the fullest extent.. and we can even talk about it when it's done.. that way we both learn more about pleasure and it's expanse of feelings and reality of what it is... and the trip is .. the next morning we both still got to go to work and we are both still the individuals who we are.. and in the big picture of it all.. it's only life.. and we happen to get the grace of time to experience it.. it's a delight in what ist is to share such.. not to control it and tell other's what they can't desire and what they can't like and being pissed becase they like other stuff in the reality of the whole of the mix of what is life. that as adults we should be able to learn to be more broad in what we can understand and what we can accept of those whom we claim to want to spend our lives with.. I'd want a woman to know that I like the idea of two women.. why should I hide that reality from her if I'm claiming that I want to spend life with her.. the matter to be concerned about.. is discretion.. both her and myself.. with what and how we mange that in a social community enviornment.. discretion is the other.. not lying and denying to each other. when I say I like bi girls most people think it's all about me.. but the reality is I know lots of women like it too.. but not many women can tell many men, and not many even feel comfortable to share that reality with many men.. becase they know that so many men judge them in so many other ways that he will judge them when he sees the expanse of their creativity.. and some men may even treat her less than the gentle kindness that he would otherwise show.. nope.. I want to share all of the woman and all the stuff she likes.. or otherwise why am I with her.. On the funny side of thing.. I always want a woman in the sx aspect to experience the maximum of pleasure that is possible in life and when that's done.. let's fine a new level to reach for... I think people will be surprised if they actually talk about everything and I mean everything and can feel fre doing so.. they may find many things.. I talked with women many many years at work and some of them I knew stuff they liked and many things their husband would never know.. becase they wee afraid to tell him.. or even mention it .. so they simply deny it.. and deny the very thought of it.. but if people think of life.. no one grows up being an adult being unaware of stuff... but find this stuff out while relating and dating.. don't get married with some fantasy imagery of each other.. if you say you want to marry someone then marry the reality of them .not that imagery that you have drawn in your mind.. leave room for the dots to be connected in you awareness .. and you may find there is much more to people than the sham of a constriction the general format of model that is put up for public display..and then people may just learn and figure out how to stay a pair and even if they split.. they won't spit with the general hatred that exist between so many people. Remember John Derek.. he was married to Bo Derek, but before he was married to Linda Evans, and Linda and Bo became friends,and each was cool with John and they could even vacation as friends .... and as for other arrangements in many parts of the world there are multiple party relationships.. and no one can say what they do or don't do in the bedroom.. because they manage "discretion". so the basic point of this is " people need to be honest".. it does not matter if it's onew man and one woman.. but be honest with each other and then you find that you can accept the whole of the each other , rather than parts.. and the denied parts based on what you fear the other knowing about what is you.
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