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Words Spoken..... There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. Ouuch  Why is that so? We say anything, most likely because we`re pissed off, tactless, without considering if it would hurt the other party. They also say that behind the success of a man is a woman. This remind me of this humour I read sometime ago. It`s not new but I still like to share with you. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." then She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed. Often we say a word without thinking and will make us regret later  Is this just a human or immaturity? How do you avoid this one? please feel free to share or add something...
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9/4/2008 10:05 am |
I worked with some people who'd blurt out some of the oddest stuff at the most poor times imaginable... I use to try to correct him, but later I found out, its was more the callous nature of how his thought structure is.. I've heard that when such things blurt out, it's those unguarded moments when the truth slips out, undressed, in the raw... I could not sleep last night and watched a religious show this morning, and the sermon, was about "speaking".. how what comes out of our mouth affects us, thru the impressions it makes within us.. when my last relative lived with me, I constantly had to watch my mouth when they did things that irritated me, because I kept thinking, that a moment of angered words, could become a stumbling block in his life for years to come.. We don't always gather how much power words have.. I make effort not to argue with people, I state my case, they state their... maybe a bit of debate, but .. trying not to just say stuff that does neither any good in the long run... there's far too many ways that the world can be viewed, to fight about how another views it... I can enjoy a good spirited debate that remains civil... as long as we are sharing information, rather than to convert it to a raw down and out insult fest.. I'll simply say... I see... Ok, that's your view... time unfolds all things. some people are just by choice sarcastic.. and some are just plain rude.. intentionally.. and there are some people who harbor inner resentments, envy and contempt at others.. so, in such situations, no matter what is said, the person will say something condescending..
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""some people are just by choice sarcastic.. and some are just plain rude.. intentionally.. and there are some people who harbor inner resentments, envy and contempt at others.. so, in such situations, no matter what is said, the person will say something condescending"" I know exactly what you mean. I know someone who was verbally abused and I also experienced the same, and so I decided to put it to an end. I find it difficult if the person doesn`t see or realize where the problem lies and instead keep pointing finger to someone else....
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SGN, thank you very much Mahal for these rules. Indeed, àn excellent advise but I tend to agree with DVinci, it`s not that easy to follow. For instance, I really believe that open communication is very vital in a relationship, so I am like an open book to my former relationship but then I noticed, he uses my failures and my words against me, even if he was not involved at all or something like happened as part of childhood experiences and I find that not fair, so the tendency is to get silent, "withdraw or isolate". Well, I am already over it, this is just for the sake of discussion. Thanks for the wishes Mahal, I`m still on my way, lol. I just think it is very important that you have a certain connection, chemistry or the same wavelength (however you call it) with your future partner in order to avoid bigger misunderstandings in the future.
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Hey Nikon, I will keep that in my head, thanks for dropping by
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