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Long-Distance Relationship, What Do You Think? Hi Guys, Have you ever experienced as like "Long-Distance Relationship"? What do you think it's gonna work? Please share your stories or former experiences with everyone! Let's exchanged some thoughts and insights! I go first, here's my story as bellows: Since 2002, I met with him on the Internet and we exchanged e-mails between each other as well. I knew he must love me when we were together. However, I was stayed in Kentucky for studying. In 2004, I've been graduated from the school, soon after I moved to New York City for working 3 years. To me, I just would like to make my dreams come true. Besides, I wasn't ready to marry him. Yet, I didn't tell him my mind. Another thing, I was worried about that he was working for IBM as an engineer in GA. I really didn't know this "Long-distance relationship" is going to work or not because I was afraid someday I'll be lost him. Therefore, I didn't want he waste his time then let him go. Maybe he didn't know how come I want to do this way. Of course, I hope I can stay by his side forever. However, I am not a selfish person and think only with myself. Therefore, I returned one beautiful gift he sent it to me. Then, I wrote letters for his parents and sisters. I believe someday he will meet one beautiful woman, fall in love and get married with her. I was so happy to talk to him one the phone when I've been stayed in New York City in 2005. I can imagine he must be happy with his present wife. These days, a friend of mine ever told me one word, [B]"True love always touches two lovers and one faithful relationship must build up with trust between each other" Then, this relationship makes it work. What do you think? He thought even though he is thinking of one person, distance is not a main factor. Elect-communication tools must be contacted with two hearts cuz it's too convenient between each other! My story is stopped from here. To me, I still don’t know how to deal with "Long-distance relationship" until now. Once again, welcome to tell your stories or experiences and share with me or others even though we don't know each other. I think, "Friends must be Start from Here, Right?" Regards, Christine, |
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1/23/2008 7:18 am |
Hi dear friend, Don't leave with the past. Sometimes, we don't understand what we do too. Life is complicative, think it simply in a postitive way. If he/(he) is happy, then I/you am/are happy. I think I/you only meet him/(him) in that time, that place, as time is up, it gone with the wind too. We are two single sand on the beach, don't know how far was the distance, or how close we were, one day we met in this space, is lucky/pity, must the sea wave pull us together, it separate us again, now where are/is you/him, that is life. Cheers, Kath3323
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Dear Victoria, I agree with you after viewing this letter! You know? In the past, I believed "Long-Distance Relationship" when I was a little girl. Maybe you think I was a "Silly Girl", don't you? Yeah, I admitted I was since a long time ago. But, now I’m already grew up from a lot of experiences. Last week, a girlfriend of mine called me from Ohio we chatted on the phone and she tried to ask me about my boyfriend, I told her we've already broken up each other since I came back to Taiwan last year! Actually, I was ready for break up with him. It's hard to keep this relationship and move forward for me! I knew someday we have to come back reality and face it! I cannot stand by my boyfriend's side then why not just let him go! As you mentioned, "Physical Present" I agree with you totally! We're jus human, not "God"! We cannot live without "Physical Love" or live this world with "Spirit Love"! Cyber world just bring us to the illusion world rather than "Reality World"! Everyone can imagine or draw a picture one Mr. or Miss Right when we’re in the "Cyber World" Everyone tried to hide their "shortcoming" and present their "perfect" side! You know? Tell you a story, Victoria, I think I chatted with one man in the chatting room at Asia Friendfinder until I gave him about my e-mail add. Today, I finally knew He is a "Lady"! See...., Man became Lady! But, I am still happy to make a girlfriend! Victoria, you know? One friend of mine, they lived together! That guy has already one pretty and smart girlfriend but he still not satisfied with her. Someday his girlfriend discovered his laptop put some girls' photos and several nights he always chatted with girls. She didn’t know at all in the past. Until now, she finally knew the truth! Then, they've broken up! Can we say, "Long distance relationship" cause this situation? The answer is, "No" It depends on people, and "Faith and Trust"! Then, this relationship is able to work out! This is just my opinion only, not fit in others! But, thanks for sharing your stories with me!! Blessing, Christine,
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1/11/2008 8:06 am |
Victoria, you have a good open mind about things, and life...and you always make sure you put the reality touch in what you say... >> it's good.  Christine .. I don't think there is an answer to how to deal with it.. but .. considering the elements of nature and reality.. the best way may be "DISCRETION"... because none can see so far over a distance. maybe the best way to deal with it.. is in the attitude one takes about it.. "" not boy friend and girlfriend... but simply " friends, that share intimacies". in reality that's all it is.. until they decided to take and make it an In house -same bedroom nightly living arrangements... people forget what the word boyfriend means.. it means.. boy- who is a friend, and putting the words together implies they have some intimate connections in being so.. no that may make the mind have more room to absorb the distance.. or otherwise it's just what??? two people living in difference places, talking like friends over the phone, and get together share some intimacies and then on back to living indifference places.
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1/10/2008 11:34 pm |
I agree with you. I know many woman and man who have tried to do long-distance relationship. Maybe they vist each other every few months and then most of time they spend on the internet chat or cell phone chat to each other. Is most difficult I know cause most people wnat the physical presence of the other person to be with them and not having to deal with words on the screen or the electronic sound of the voice. I have good friend who is doctor in hospital who married to another Asian doctor in New York City. That not lasting too long cause he don't want to leave NYC and she is adopted California girl at heart even though both are immigrants from China and working very hard to become doctors here in America. Another friend is CFO for large companay in Silicon Valley and she just break up with her boyfriend in Chicago cause is difficult for them to get together for physical relationship. Other friend is angry cause she saving herself for her LTD boyfriend but she finding out that he has several other girlfriends he see when he not seeing her. So is difficult choice for person to making cause never can tell how is going to working out in LTD. Sure physical love is good but not able to do if so far away. So spiritual love is only way to bind two lovers together but how long that can lasting? What if get married and have children and father is one city and mother is in other with children. Someone have to make decision to move to other person's place. But what if other person not want you to move there? Ohh, maybe there is hidden problem gonna come out if you show up unannounced. Regards, VICKY
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