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4/27/2009 10:17 pm "Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants is, everybody seeks it, but fewer ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it and among all, never..ever forget it.." - Joliane Omega Those who find it will never, ever forget it. Quite true. One thing though....sometimes only one of two in a couple find it or stay "in it"...because sometimes you find yourself loving someone who doesn't reciprocate...and sometimes you discover what real true love is, and the other person only thinks or thought they love...they were only "in love" or worse, it was just puppy love or strong affection or, cliche aside, it may have been simply confusion....it's often a an excuse but sometimes the truth....confusion. Ironic though...if you find real love and you lose it, you often find it is easy to find again...you discover that love comes when you are ready....and you learn from the loss and are always ready....forever ready....and this is how the one that left you loses out, for few find love and odds are the one that left didn't and never will, but you did....and that is the gift, that is justice, but it is also the curse..............to be forever able to see love...always able to find it easily...the thing is, relationships are ongoing, never permanent, so you always wonder, if this one is the one that stays...and what if you miss it because it gets confusing figuring out and you let go of too easily...because you learn to let go too...not always out of fear....but just because it gets easier...because, trust and fear aside, anyone who's been left knows there are no absolute guarantees when it comes to people...only with God is there ever predictability and absolute loyalty. |
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5/7/2009 2:25 pm |
Love may be easy to fall into. For real love to remain both people must work at it. It is given freely, it can't be purchased. Yet, it must be nurtured, cared for, etc. Those who fall out- thought it was just something that "happen to you". It must be a choice. Daily remembered and tended. It cannot live in a vaccuum- ever. No matter how stong it may begin, it is a living thing- it can starve and die. Both must realize and contribute. Sometimes one may contribute more, sometimes need more. As long as both are caring for it it can live as ong long as both live, even longer.
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5/20/2009 2:35 pm |
Possibly. I've heard this a lot when I was younger, along with many other perspectives. It seems love either never dies or it can, and too often does. I tend to believe, like you, that the "relationship" must be nurtured and cared for, but that love either is real or false. If it seems to disappear, and it's really able to vanish, then it was never real. I suppose that's why it's so easy to fall in love, once some people learn how to the first time, but it's so heard to find the "true" love...I don't think it's the same thing....but then, it's like God...anyone who has real faith knows it's not something that can be "proven"...if it were that simple, two of the great question of humanity would be resolved: Is there a God? What is love?
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5/20/2009 10:55 pm |
I believe true love does exist, but it's very rare. Whether it's true love or not, it can only be proved in one way ---- it takes the whole lifetime to get to know if the one that you have been with really loves truely, it's a matter of actions, instead of just romantic/sweet words.
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6/16/2009 4:56 pm |
I believe true love does exist, but it's very rare. Whether it's true love or not, it can only be proved in one way ---- it takes the whole lifetime to get to know if the one that you have been with really loves truely, it's a matter of actions, instead of just romantic/sweet words. In my experiences I've learned love isn't about the other person and if they truly love you or not....it is about if you truly love them, and you can see it by whether you give up on them if they don't come thru. The romantic relationship may die and should if the boundaries are broken and especially if you give a second or third or more chances, and they continue to fail as a romantic partner....but if you truly love them, the relationship will morph or change...and even if despite all your efforts to keep some form of relationship they completely separate, your love stays. When we keep judging if love is real by what the other person does, I think it is just another sign that we are still confusing being "in love" (selfish love which is all about us) with real love (which is all about how we treat someone else, irregardless of what we receive back). Just my thoughts....the change in perspective has made it a lot easier to forgive someone I really love (still) and to love someone new without expecting anything or at least too much in return.
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