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"The truth is I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't. When they found this out, they would blame me for disillusioning them---and fooling them." -Marilyn Monroe- |
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9/4/2009 12:13 am |
So true. Especially with a lot of the not-Asian men looking for love in AFF. They have this image of the exotic erotic Asian chick ready to do what ever he wants them to do for him. He had better watch out 'cause that cute Asian chick can be the death of him. Ask any Asian man who just managed to escape with his life and wallet after a "blissful" relationship with his Asian girlfriend/wife/mistress. Just ask Touch. He has projected his image of his ideal "Asian Chick" and it's not working. All he's associated with are "bar girls." HEATHER Do you know my Scandinavian name?
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9/4/2009 3:52 pm |
LadyBrigadoon... you are funny.. ( I've not projected any image of an ideal anything" - I may certainly have said, that I like the general nature of the slimness of younger Asian women, but beyond that, there is no delusions of idea anything, and there is no guarantee the young slim one will stay slim, I've seen many spread, like any other woman from any other place as they age, it's just life. As to ...Bar girls, they are just girls, who happen to work in bars.. As to Asian women in general, I have no illusion about them. They are women.. As to women and sex, be it a bar girl or a non bar girl, all of them if they see the opportunity to make use of sex, will, if they think it suits their objective of the moment. "that's life", and its relative to any... Asian or non Asian, As for guys who have a delusion of some of the imagery depicted in "Bonanza", of the TV script stereotyped falseness about Asian women, they are in for a shocking reality.. Some men run around and push the delusion within their own minds, that the quietness of "some" Asian women, to be something other than what it is. but what they fail to grasp is, some Asian women let a man hang himself, by assuming her quietness means something that it does not. and when she cuts him to the bone, and dare him to bleed.. he is shocked.  I truly don't think there is anything even remotely a concept of some "Ideal" Asian chick.. not even in the physical realm.. Even I speak of the youthful slimness of some, in the reality of life, they don't all stay slim, just like not all women of any ethnicity stay, anything, other than, being of female gender (and some have that surgically changed), beyond that,its just a mass of individuals, that populate the earth.. spin the wheel and take your chance, is what it comes down to, but the best anyone can do.. is ... PAY ATTENTION... 
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9/4/2009 4:00 pm |
Two guys over the past few months, have written about how they got ripped by an Asian woman, and left hanging on a thin thread over a hot pot of rubber... and these women played them like they were dribbling a basketball.. and vanished.. Most Asian country have vast populations, and that means people have to learn very fast how to play the games that exist in their circles, so many of these men, who come to this site, and see these women, and think their face means innocent.. what they don't realize it, that is just their face, it does not mean innocent, it means that is how they look, and it has nothing to do with innocent. I worked with a girl once, she was from some Island in the South American Region, she said people always talk about Asian women look so innocent, she said she was watching a x video one night, and told the man she was with, "see, this girls has done everything, "twice", now does she still look innocent. but before time spins beyond the next decade, there will be many men, that find out the hard way, that Asian women, are "women", just like other women, and as any man underestimates any women, he will get ripped.
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9/5/2009 10:36 pm |
A lot of Western women get ticked by Western men going abroad to Asia or Russia or South America to find romance. It really says 3 things ---- that sometimes the men can't or chose not to deal with Western dating, that teh Western dating/marriage culture has shifted heavily to the female's demands, and the simple laws of supply and demand (women in developing nations are simply used to less "power" and seek out Western men for their less demanding natures/more money/immigration potential. I'm just saying it the way it is...beyond that, you have your insincere people (men and women), gold-diggers, and bad mates in both the West and East. Certainly, right here in America, there are shares of cheaters, gold-diggers, and those who contribute nothing and expect everything when marriages end because of themselves or both partners. However, my post wasn't about the above or the comments I received. It was about two things --- first, how con artists in relationships often simply let the romantic partner "con him/herself"; second, how they use the "victim's dreams" to build their con upon. It was just something for all of us to think about...because don't we all put on a mask to suit those we are pursuing to some degree? I'd dare say most of us have....it's just how far we have taken it and how intentionally we planned it out.
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9/5/2009 10:42 pm |
And something I forgot...how sometimes it's just like Marilyn said...we con ourselves, the other person just let's us dig our own hole/grave, and then when we find out they are not who we thought, we go and blame them for our disillusion and pain. When it is like the quote explicitly states, both parties are responsible for their share of deception, by either projecting an illusion, playing the role of a dream, intentionally not correcting the illusion, or intentionally keeping one's eyes shut.
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9/6/2009 6:52 am |
you are certainly right... that's why I said.. "Some men run around and push the delusion within their own minds, that the quietness of "some" Asian women, to be something other than what it is. but what they fail to grasp is, some Asian women let a man hang himself, by assuming her quietness means something that it does not. I've seen guys take the soft tone of a womans voice to assume that it means she is honest.. they over-look the fact that is just how her voice sounds, it has nothing to do with how honest she is. The win me game, that so many men fall for, is the biggest "sucker trap of all time". It's about on par with the way women use the "you are not a gentleman" to manipulate men to submit to her. Or use that often used phrase of " If you were a man, you'd ... " women use this to see how much the man will become desperate for her approval, and she uses it to make sure that she has the power to approve of him, which in turn, becomes a regulator of his esteem. (if he is fool enough to fall for it). but the reality of the matter is.. anyone using games of such sorts to make the other less, also makes themselves less, because why would anyone want to diminish the person they love, when they should be trying to support them being more and as much as they can be, which provides more of the person for them to share with.. manipulation games, make little "both people"
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