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tracy5202008 58F
29 posts
8/18/2008 2:39 pm
Love-- western man vs. asian woman
For anyone who is looking for an Asian woman, you better understand the Asian culture first. It would not be wise to bring a woman home and later find out that you are so disappointed with her because the way of expression of love.

I grew up in a family which was very traditional, loving and caring. When I was in college, I only went back home twice for vacation in my entire 4 years of study. It was not because I didn't want to go home nor I went to other places for pleasure, but simply because I loved my parents and wanted to reduce some financial burden for them. I spent my vacation time in the college and worked as a translator and earned some money which I used later to support my older sister to marry. During my study, my mother had cancer and she didn't tell me until a year and half later I graduated from college because she loved me so much and didn't want me to worry about her. We love each other deeply and yet we might appear to be cold outside. I don't remember my parents ever said "I love you" to me, but I know very well they have put up everything for me--they love me completely and unconditionally. We love others by putting their needs before ourselves.
Some westerners don't understand this and criticize Asian women are cold. Please do not judge us by your own standards. There is no right or wrong here. If you can't accept the differences, you won't be able to find a true, loving and traditional Asian woman.

I will be more than happy to see more discussions from Asia Friendfinder friends. Please use this as a bridge to tell others how will you express your love and understand others' expressions.
tracy5202008 58F

8/20/2008 9:45 am

 Yes， we　all have dreams, dreams of simple life, simple world... thanks for sharing your dreams with me.


tracy5202008 58F

8/21/2008 9:15 pm

 Thanks for visting and sharing. I love your articles too. Will stop by more often. Cheers.


tracy5202008 58F

8/26/2008 12:03 pm

 Thanks to you all. I'm very glad to meet you here. Yes, I'm busy since I'm a working mom with two children and I may not check my message here as often as I should, but please feel free to leave your commands here or you may contact me via e-mail. I will try to get back to you as soon as I can. Wish you the best!!!


victorylee0516
(victoria lee) 41F

8/28/2008 12:39 am

 Most western men have this image of an Asian woman in desperate search of a western man to escape here present circumstances. They feel they need only appear and the Asian woman will fall in love with them. How wrong they are. They are also rude when they first meet you and say "I want to be the father of your children." What they really mean is they want sex with you, nothing more.

Thanks for sharing and good luck to you. Drop by and vist my blog when you have time.

VICKY


tracy5202008 58F

8/29/2008 5:45 pm

 Thanks for sharing, Vicky. Yes, most Asian women here are well educated and have good values. It would be very wrong for anyone to think Asian women here are seeking for chest hair only. They might have joined Asia Friend Finder with different reasons. They might be facing problems in their life, but one needs to understand is that a woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood. To feel better, women talk about past problems, future problems, potential problems, even problems that have no solutions. The more talk and exploration the better they feel. This is the way women operate. Gradually, if she feels she is being heard, her stress disappears. To expect otherwise is to deny a woman her sense of self. And to forget her own painful feelings, a woman may even become emotionally involved in the problems of others...


victorylee0516
(victoria lee) 41F

9/8/2008 1:45 am
    Quoting tracy5202008:
    Thanks for sharing, Vicky. Yes, most Asian women here are well educated and have good values. It would be very wrong for anyone to think Asian women here are seeking for chest hair only. They might have joined Asia Friend Finder with different reasons. They might be facing problems in their life, but one needs to understand is that a woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood. To feel better, women talk about past problems, future problems, potential problems, even problems that have no solutions. The more talk and exploration the better they feel. This is the way women operate. Gradually, if she feels she is being heard, her stress disappears. To expect otherwise is to deny a woman her sense of self. And to forget her own painful feelings, a woman may even become emotionally involved in the problems of others...
Your comments are so true. My friend say to me that she call me just to talk before she go to sleep cause she cannot talk to her husband about somethings that only women can disucss.


ansi60 63M

12/23/2008 12:15 am

 i moved away from my father and mother 17 years ago. when i would drive 600 miles to get home where i live, i will never forget my mother crying on the front porch. i never left home without telling my parents that i love them, and give them a love hug! my family happiness is more than mine. love them, won't trade for any family in the world. people, am i not my brothers keeper?