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好心不得好报/Good intention may not always have good result Because of the differences between our cultures, many times we may end up doing something with a good intention and yet not being appreciated by the partner. For instance, an Asian woman may show her care and love by feeding the family nice meal, reminding them time to bed, to work, to wash hands or brush teeth, etc. Those actions might be taken wrong as none sense, too demanding or something even worse due to the nature independence of the Westerner. "What goes around, comes around. What goes up, must come down" (俗话说的善有善报） may not apply in this case. Instead, you may often feel "我本将心照明月,奈何明月照渠沟"( )--hehe, I'll leave the translation blank here and wait for you to fill in. 
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8/27/2008 8:52 pm |
Maybe I should add a little more here: good intentions are not good enough and the above statement should apply in general to men and women. Falling in love is always magical. But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, a couple needs to be aware that they are different and they must take time to understand and respect each other, or they will become demanding,resentful, judgmental, and intolerant. With the best and most loving intentions love continues to die. Only when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has chance to blossom.
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8/28/2008 12:35 am |
Wow, this is so true about good intentions. When we starte dour business we wanted to take care of our workers. Now, it seems as though new workers are demanding more then we can afford to give. Thanks for sharing. Drop by and visit when you have time. VICKY
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9/13/2008 8:14 pm |
oops, sorry nan, i almost missed your comment. thanks for coming and glad to meet you. i visited your blog once (wish i could do more though),and found you have many interesting posts as well. i would be glad to share more culture differences and other issues here if i find time. we all need to do our shares in order to promote a healthier website--just had a friend told me that he thought this is a dating site only. he turned down any/all women who are not looking for serious relationship. the fact is, most asian woman will take the first step very carefully in developing a relationship. they are not ready to commit themselves to strangers without getting to know them. the term friend to them is not the same to playboys. so when they say they only want to be your friend really means they want to get to know you first instead of being irresponsible and just looking for fun. do you agree?
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