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Busy and exciting schedule for my 's wedding and MD graduation I have been very busy for my 's wedding in May and her MD graduation in June 2017. May 7, 2017 - My 's bridal shower. I transferred money to her account and gave her many gifts. May 18, 2017 - 's wedding dress rehearsal evening and dinner. I wore the dress as in my primary photo now. May 20, 2017 - 's wedding day. Her father attended her wedding but didn't walk her down the aisle, but her father danced with at wedding reception. The wedding was at a church in Laguna Hills, CA. May 27 to 29 Memorial weekend - water erupted in the kitchen, possible "SLAB". Need to do "whole house re-pipping". The homeowner insurance probably is not covered re-pipping or kitchen cabinet restoration. I shut down the water to prevent the more water leaking but it is very inconvenience. June 6, 2017 - 's MD graduation in Detroit, Michigan. I went to Detroit for her graduation for 3 days. When they announced her name, she received not only her MD diploma but also the announcer continued to say "She also received Special Achievement Awards". I looked up the "commencement and Hooding Ceremony" program. The "special achievement awards" includes 1) Distinguished Service Awards - Awarded by the Student Senate in recognition of accomplishment and active participation in extracurricular programs that contribute to betterment of the school. 2) Gold Humanism Honor Society - Honors physicians who are not only scientifically knowledgeable but compassionate and dedicated to the humanistic side of medicine. My is not only intelligent but also very kindhearted. She has donated her blood and her hair since high school, but now she also donate money to charity. Too many photos to display, I will attach some later.    Honesty is the best policy. |
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I don't have high annual income as when I had worked full time pharmacist. My income is on my six properties that produce rental income for me to survive daily expenses, so the top 10 Ivy Leagues didn't know my net worth is few millions. Unless I sold some of my properties to help out my daughter to pay off her student loan of $340K. But again, I don't want to sell my properties because student loan interest rate is much lower than any loan I can borrow. Do you know what I meant? Annual income is different from net worth. If I sell properties, I won't have rental income. You can't eat the cake and have it. Honesty is the best policy.
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My father was the youngest in 9 children, my mom was the breadwinner. My ex is the youngest in 5 children and I am the breadwinner. My daughter is a MD but her husband is only PA (Physician Assistant). In my family, women are very strong and men are very weak. I am worried it run in the family. I don't want to see the history repeat. Do you understand?? I thought I married a dentist, he will support the family, but he didn't make money. I gave my ex "Green Card, US citizen" through marriage. He stashed his income to himself not to family and took away when moved out. I am just a pharmacist but I supported a dentist. My mom was a nurse and midwife (助產士,similar to OB/GYN but not a MD), she was the breadwinner. It is a sad story. When I started Asia Friendfinder in Sept 2004, there were so many men in China emailed me asked me to be their friends. I deemed them as scammers. I can't afford to have heartbroken again. Support any person weaker than me. I have dated 75 men and 74 of them are Caucasian and only 1 from Taiwan (PhD in Chemistry, US citizen). I rather to be alone than been hurt again. The best man is the banker CEO since June 2006. The banker has the knowledge how to make money and I learned from him. He won't marry again, he has been daunted by divorce. I want a winner, not a loser in my life. Someone I can look up, not look down. Honesty is the best policy.
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I gave my daughter a brand new car when she was 16 and passed her driver's license driving exam. That car now is driving by my son (her brother). When my daughter graduated from UCI (Irvine) for her pre-med program, I gave her another brand new car on her birthday. Yes, she knows mother supported her all the way. Her father (my ex) attended his daughter's wedding but didn't walk her down the aisle because he is ashamed of himself that he didn't support her. He didn't pay any money in helping to raise his children. He only paid the first pack of diaper when my daughter was born. No baby cloth, no baby furniture (crib, car seat, high chair, ....), no allowance, no gift, nothing involved with money. The only thing he did was gave babies bath. My ex is so stingy that I have decided to divorce him. I thought I married a dentist and he would give me a good life. But my "Hope" became a "Disappointment" and turned out to be a "Despair". That's when my daughter was 16 and son was 14. A dentist wrote $2 per month income in his financial statement on divorce paper. He even said loudly enough to let me hear "if there is a check box "per year", he would put $2 per year income". California is a 50/50 community property law state. A loser became a winner. Her father (my ex) also attended daughter's MD graduation in Detroit. I don't know if he gave daughter any money. I hope he did, but I doubt it. I saw him, but he stayed away from me. He knows my anger. Honesty is the best policy.
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You asked a good question. My daughter pre-med program for 2 bachelor degrees - Psychology and Neurobiology was from UCI (Univ. of Calf. Irvine). She got accepted by all UC system including UCSF, UC Berkeley, but her boyfriend (now husband) wanted only in Irvine because his pastor father worked at a church in Irvine. So, she went to UCI. She and her now my son-in-law are high school sweetheart since their senior year. They have over 12 years romance. It was the same time I filed my divorce 13 years ago. As you probably know, my daughter got SAT I and II both perfect score of 1600 and got attention of President George W. Bush and gave her "U.S. Presidential scholarship" and Dept of Education gave her " U.S. Merit scholarship" and all UC gave her "full scholarship". She didn't need to pay any tuition for 4 yrs during her pre-med and made money about $12,000 a year. I paid for her dormitory for 2 yrs (normally dormitory only for freshmen, but my daughter is the exception) and the rent and living allowance. In order to get straight A grades, she spent 5 years for her two majors and graduated with "Magna cum laude". She was the top 3 graduate. Irvine is very close to my home, so she came home almost weekly during that 5 yrs. I have posted a blog about the U.S. university/college system. We are U.S. citizens and California residents. My children were born and raised in California. University/ college can charge MORE TUITION for out-of-state or foreign students. Those 3 scholarships she got are for undergraduates but not for "post-graduate doctor program". This Wayne State University in Detroit is the only medical school gave her $15,000 scholarship per year. She has borrowed $100K student loan from Dept of Education and paid back $15K scholarship. So, each year she owed $85K for 4 yrs. Approximately she owed $350K. All the works she did were volunteer, not got paid until now she graduated. She did volunteer jobs for "Doctors without Boarders" and hospitals without pay to gain experience. I received many compliment calls at home from Red Cross and "Doctors without Boarders" for the good deeds my daughter did for them. My daughter applied Harvard and Yale and all those "Ivy Leagues" but those top universities are "Private schools" and my ex-husband's income is too low, so those top 10 Ivy Leagues declined her applications. Do you understand "parents' income" also involved in acceptance of enroll into those universities? Every year they checked parents' income. They want to make sure student can afford to pay tuition. Hope you understand the fact. Universities need to make money too. Detroit is a very cold place. I want her to come back to warm and sunshine California. She is a grown-up adult, I let her make decision on her own. I really want her to be an "Anesthesiologist" but she insists to be an OB/GYN. I couldn't persuade her. It is not my decision. As a mother, I only can do so much as a advisor. I stopped gave her $1,000 allowance since this month and stopped paying her auto insurance. She is married and graduated, she needs to be independent. I can't claim her as my dependent in income tax return. She needs to face her finance on her own. Her husband will be graduated as a "Physician Assistant" in Arizona in August this year and move to live with my daughter in Detroit. They are not living together until his graduation. C'est la vie - That's life. Honesty is the best policy.
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There are many speeches for this MD graduation. I remember one of a MD, Brenda Moskovitz, President, Medical Alumni Association, ended her speech by saying "use your best knowledge and profession judgement to make this world a better place to live." She is an OB/GYN doctor. There was "Commencement Address" and "MD Oath". Those speeches touched my heart. Declaration of a new doctor Now, as a new doctor, I solemnly promise that I will to the best of my ability serve humanity—caring for the sick, promoting good health, and alleviating pain and suffering. I recognise that the practice of medicine is a privilege with which comes considerable responsibility and I will not abuse my position. I will practice medicine with integrity, humility, honesty, and compassion—working with my fellow doctors and other colleagues to meet the needs of my patients. I shall never intentionally do or administer anything to the overall harm of my patients. I will not permit considerations of gender, race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, nationality, or social standing to influence my duty of care. I will oppose policies in breach of human rights and will not participate in them. I will strive to change laws that are contrary to my profession's ethics and will work towards a fairer distribution of health resources. I will assist my patients to make informed decisions that coincide with their own values and beliefs and will uphold patient confidentiality. I will recognize the limits of my knowledge and seek to maintain and increase my understanding and skills throughout my professional life. I will acknowledge and try to remedy my own mistakes and honestly assess and respond to those of others. I will seek to promote the advancement of medical knowledge through teaching and research. I make this declaration solemnly, freely, and upon my honor. Honesty is the best policy.
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"Congratulation" to you and your daughter... the work pays off  You have every right to be proud and certainly as the years come she will do many things that give you much job and cause for feeling proud. In my Asia Friendfinder profile, I have a new album just for my daughter's wedding and her MD graduation photos. I couldn't persuade her to be an Anesthesiologist, she set her goal to be an OB/GYN. Honesty is the best policy.
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"Congratulation" to you and your daughter... the work pays off You have every right to be proud and certainly as the years come she will do many things that give you much job and cause for feeling proud.
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My daughter also received "Distinguished service awards" and "Gold Humanism Honor Society" that said all that she is kindhearted person. She will be a nice OB/GYN doctor. To be a OB/GYN doctor has great responsibilities in both the mother and babies, the reproductive therapy for the couple who want to have baby, unwanted (** case) abortion, C-section surgery, twins/ triplets or more births, .... so much responsibilities for an OB/GYN. I couldn't persuade her to be an Anesthesiologist who can make better income and has less responsibility. Honesty is the best policy.
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I accidentally introduced "Reader's Digest" to my daughter when she was only 6 years old. One day I was preparing the dinner for my family. I was waiting the water to boil (soup), so I grabbed a "Reader's Digest" to read the humorous jokes and I laughed. (My ex-husband is a dentist and brought back some magazine back home) My daughter approached and asked me "what is that book made you laugh?" I said the jokes from "Reader's Digest" and you can have it. My daughter skipped one grade in Elementary, she could read since 4 years old. My daughter read "Reader's Digest" ever since to 18 years old. She has gained tremendous knowledge. At that time there was a TV game show "Who wants to be a millionaires" and my daughter could answered all the questions correctly even she was only 8 to 12 years old but that TV said must over 18 years old. All her teachers from Elementary (spelling bee and math count #1 award in 45 schools) to Jr High to High school (She got both SAT I and II perfect scores of 1600 in 2007 and got U.S. Presidential scholarship from George W. Bush, U.S. Merit scholarship from Dept of Education and full scholarship from all the University of California). So, when she was in her pre-med program, she received all 3 scholarship and didn't need to pay any tuition and made $12K a year. She graduated with two majors - Psychology and Neurobiology. She then entered her "post-graduated doctoral program" out of California. I am very proud of her academic achievements and enjoyed those years I raised her up very easily. She is smart and kind-hearted. She donated her hair to cancer society and her blood to Red Cross since her high school years. She helped me with my computer problems. I can't ask more for a daughter like mine. Honesty is the best policy.
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I want my daughter to be an anesthesiologist but she insists to be an OB/GYN doctor. Currently she got a position at St. John Hospital as a intern surgeon. It is a long journey to be a MD. She has approximately owed student loan for $350K for her 4 years post-graduated doctoral program. She borrowed $100K from Dept of Education and her school gave her $15K scholarship, so she got $85K each year for 4 years. Honesty is the best policy.
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Daughter's wedding reception on 5-20-2017 and her MD graduation holding her MD diploma on 6-6-2017. Honesty is the best policy.
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