[Argument Guidelines]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 1:36 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:27 am 7211 Views
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1. Don't talk if you're too emotional about the situation.
Things you say in the heat of the moment have a way of leaving a damaging mark on your relationship. Instead of lashing out while you're still emotional, go out and take a 10 to 20 minute walk. Getting away from the situation will help you cool off and gain a much-needed new perspective.
2. Leave the past where it belongs...in the past.
It is a natural tendency to want to compare current situations to other situations that may have occurred in the past. It gives us our sense of security and pattern in life. Unfortunately, no one wants to continually be reminded of their past wrong-doings. By bringing up everything you don't like about them or what they've done, it can emotionally push your partner away from you. Who wants to be around, or open up to, someone who only makes them feel bad about themselves? Keep your disagreements about the problem you are actually dealing with at this time.
3. Take turns relaying your viewpoints.
Let one person say what is bothering them first. Then, let the other person rebuttal or give their viewpoint. Continue until you both feel like the other person has understood what you're saying. Remember though, just because your partner may not agree with you does not mean they didn't hear or understand what you're saying. The goal of a disagreement is not to bend the other person to your thoughts or side of the story. It is to come to an agreement, mutually, that benefits all people involved.
4. Try to really understand your partner's viewpoint.
It is so easy to get caught up in how we have felt wronged, that many times we forget to truly take a look at the other person's viewpoint on the situation. Really put yourself in their shoes, and see how you would have acted differently in the same situation. More often that not, you'll find after an honest look, you would have done the same thing.
5. Find a solution to the problem together.
Once you've both identified that there is a problem, and what the exact problem is, you need to come to a solution that benefits each other. To do this, each person should be responsible for coming up with a solution they feel will end the problem. Share your ideas and agree to a compromise, if needed, to the situation.
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[8 Ways To Handle An Argument]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 1:17 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:22 am 7530 Views
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1. Give your partner enough space to voice his or her concerns.
I'm sure you hate it when people interrupt you; give your partner the same respect -- even if you don't agree with what they are saying.
2. Make an extra effort to really understand what you partner is trying to say.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of thinking you know what they are saying, when in fact you may not have a clue. If your partner feels like you understand what they are saying, you'll find a way to end the argument far more quickly.
3. Don't say something you'll regret later.
Always consider your relationship like a glass. It is sturdy, tough, beautiful and clear when taken care of, but if it is mistreated or mishandled it can end up scratched, cracked or even broken. Take care in choosing the words you say when you are in the heat of the moment.
4. Don't bring in past woes.
The past is the past... let it stay there. If you dwell on past occurrences, you'll never find a solution for the future your partner will feel less loved and respected, and you will always feel negatively towards your partner. People make mistakes. Give your partner the chance to recover from them, and encourage and support them when they make the right choices.
5. Learn to compromise.
If you can learn to compromise, you'll find yourself in fewer disagreements. If you don't like something, then agree with your partner to find some middle ground. This also applies the other way. Be willing to come up with alternative solutions for things your partner doesn't like as well!
6. Realize that no matter what you say, you both may not agree on the issue at hand.
An argument is typically started because you want someone to agree with you about something. You think that the other person must not know all the facts, so you begin to explain it to them. The more your partner still disagrees with you, the more upset you usually get. But, if you realize that sometimes it is best to just let yourselves agree to disagree -- you'll show your partner that you not only respect their opinion, but respect their individuality as well. You never know, maybe later on they (or even you!) might change their mind.
7. Make a commitment to talk about the situation until it is handled.
It's far too easy to run off and avoid your partner, or give them the silent treatment. Instead, make a commitment right now to each other to respect each other enough to work it out -- even if it takes all night. Nothing is unsolvable when you are working together to truly find a peaceful resolution.
8. Make your relationship with your partner your first concern when you are in the middle of a disagreement.
This does not mean bend over backwards for them or compromise your integrity. Just keep in mind that the person you are arguing with is your best friend, lover and soul mate. If you both keep that at the forefront of your mind in an argument, it will keep what matters most away from cruel words or intent -- your heart!
Let your partner know exactly when something upsets you.
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[Fun Places To Leave Love Notes!]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 12:06 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:22 am 7031 Views
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Let's face it, no matter what mood you're in, it's always a delightful surprise to find a hidden love note somewhere.
♡ Inside your partner's towel.
♡ Inside a book your love is currently reading.
♡ Taped behind a cupboard.
♡ Behind your partner's car sun visor.
♡ On their pillow.
♡ Inside their shoe.
♡ Taped to their favorite beverage.
♡ The bottom (outside) of a clear glass.
♡ Hanging on a doorknob.
♡ Taped on the backside of the remote control.
♡ Inside the microwave. (Where they'll immediately see it.)
♡ Inside your partner's wallet or purse.
♡ Laminated in a bubble bath.
♡ Very large, taped on an outside window.
♡ Attached to your love's key chain.
♡ In your mailbox.
♡ On the ceiling, above your bed.
♡ In your partner's drawer.
♡ Inside a CD or movie sleeve.
♡ Inside your love's favorite coffee cup.
Which one have you done?
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[Intimate Gestures That Anyone Can Do!]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 11:52 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:21 am 7070 Views
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Romance is more than flowers and a card on Valentine's Day. It is the simple, everyday things you do to make your partner feel loved.
♡ Leave messages of love and lust around for your partner to find.
♡ Have a candlelit bath awaiting when your partner gets home from a busy day.
♡ Slow dance to your favorite song, just because.
♡ Sneak up and give your partner an unexpected hug and kiss.
♡ Whisk your partner away for an impromptu picnic or to watch the sunset.
♡ Make eye contact across a crowed room and mouth the words, "I love you."
♡ Surprise your partner by doing something unexpected like cleaning the house.
♡ Share a glass of wine or a cup of coffee while watching the night sky.
♡ Cuddle up in front of the fire and talk about your lives together.
♡ Make a surprise candlelight dinner for your partner.
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[The Most Romantic Ways To Melt His Or Her Heart!]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 11:48 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:21 am 7183 Views
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For when they are going away:
Get together pictures, song lyrics, that gum wrapper that you saved from the first piece of gum he gave you etc. Using magazine letters for words, in your journal make a collage of words that you have memories of, such as the title of your favorite song, or a word that describes something only you and he would understand. Also include reasons why you love him and why he will be missed, why he's so special... Put in pictures of his favorite actress even though you may hate her (hehe); draw a picture of him with your eyes closed just for giggles; spray some pages with your perfume; tape rose petals on the pages or a four leaf clover for good luck. This would be a great going away present for any guy or girl.
For when they are coming home:
Buy rose petals and candles to make a trail from the entrance to the table. On the table I will have a romantic dinner with candles all over forming a big heart. And, if you want to make him laugh a little, go to the restroom and write I love you, or I missed you on the mirror with shaving cream.
Just to show them you love them:
♡ Call her when she is not expecting a phone call and say to her, "I've been thinking about and I just wanted to hear your voice,"
♡ If she has access to email then email her a few words telling her how much you love her or that you miss her and sometimes email her and talk dirty to her.
♡ Send her flowers.
♡ Get her a card and give it to her and say, "Just because you are so special to me".
To show them you would do anything for them:
Girls love a guy who can dance & most guys hate dancing or are just really shy. If you were to take some lessons on the sly - Latin dancing is really sexy - and then totally surprise her one night and take her out dancing ...Latin, swing or ballroom. I will bet a million dollars you will blow her away. Cheers!
To show them how much they mean to you:
The most romantic thing I ever did was giving my boyfriend a heart shaped box on our anniversary. I wrote a message on it, and in the message I told him that not only am I giving him my heart, but also I would like him to look inside it and see how I feel about him. Inside the heart-shaped box, I had cut out a heart for every single day I have known him. On each heart, I wrote something that I love about him...I told him that, for everyday I have known him; I have found another reason why I love him. I thought he was going to cry!
Romance in your own special way:
Everyone has a romantic side you just need to figure out what yours is. I had a boyfriend once who could not for the life of him figure out how to express himself. One day out of the blue, he took me to the river laid out a blanket and told me his whole life story - it was so sweet and I really got to know him.
Here are some ideas:
♡ If you have a "special" place where you like to go to be alone, bring her there and make her feel like she's the only one who knows about it.
♡ Ask her to go for a ride - take her to a 's playground and push her on the swings.
♡ Go to a baseball (football, soccer) field after dark and stop the car, get out turn on a slow song and spontaneously ask her to dance.
Finally, just be yourself - you'll think of something - I promise! And when you do, she'll look past the generality of flowers, etc. and really fall in love with you! I hope this helps you!
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[Romantic Ways To Start The Day]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 11:31 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:21 am 7020 Views
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Brighten your day and your love life with these romantic ways to start the day!
♡ Give your love a lingering good morning kiss.
♡ Put a love note inside your love's morning paper.
♡ Lay a flower on your love's towel.
♡ Using a toothpick, write the words, "I love you!" on their soap bar.
♡ Using an anti-fog medium, write "I love you!" on the bathroom mirror.
♡ Take your morning shower together.
♡ Surprise your love, with breakfast in bed.
♡ Call to say, "I love you."
♡ Wake your partner up with a kiss.
♡ Leave a gift next to your partner to find when they wake up.
♡ Let the first words your partner hears in the day be a reason why you love them.
♡ Cuddle for at least five minutes before getting up.
♡ Wake up thirty minutes early so you have time to spend together before going to work.
♡ Give your partner bedside service by bringing them a cup of coffee, their favorite section of the newspaper and a plate of fruit or muffins.
♡ Set up a romantic bath or shower for your love.
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[25 Ways To Say I Love You]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 11:19 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:21 am 7055 Views
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1. Order a custom-made cake with, "I love you" written on it.
2. Call in a dedication on your partner's favorite radio station.
3. Have flowers, delivered in person by a mutual friend.
4. Post a dedication on Lovingyou.com.
5. Commission a billboard on your partner's route to work.
6. Diamond anything, with a card, or engraved.
7. Send them a framed photograph, autographed by you.
8. Leave a message on their voice mail or pager.
9. Leave little love notes around the house where they will find them.
10. Write it on the bathroom mirror in fog-proof treatment.
11. Mail them a letter, postcard or greeting card.
12. Commission a sky writer to write it in the air.
13. Announce it over the public address system in any public place.
14. Send them a postcard from the heart.
15. Write them a love poem.
16. Build a web site dedicated to your love.
17. Take out an ad in their favorite newspaper or magazine.
18. Make a screen saver and have a colleague load it onto their work computer.
19. Create any one of the simple crafts on LYC and send it to your love with a note.
20. Send them a box of chocolates with a card.
21. Have an artist draw their portrait from a photograph.
22. Carve a heart into their favorite tree.
23. Buy them something they have always wanted.
24. Commission a love song, sung just for them.
25. Commission a romance novel with you both as the lead characters.
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[101 Reasons Why I Love You]
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Posted:May 25, 2006 11:10 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2006 7:21 am 7062 Views
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1. I love the way we finish each other's sentences.
2. I love the way I know you'll never give up on me.
3. I love the fact that I wouldn't ever give up on you.
4. I love the way you look at me.
5. I love how beautiful your eyes are.
6. I love the way I can't imagine a day without you in my life.
7. I love the way if we were ever separated I wouldn't know how to go on.
8. I love the way we cuddle and watch sunsets together.
9. I love the way we sometimes stay up all night and just talk, then watch the sunrise together.
10. I love how I know you'll always be there when I need you to be.
11. I love the fact that I will always be there for you too.
12. I love how when I dream of my life partner, the only person that I can see is you.
13. I love how complete I feel when I am with you.
14. I love how our bodies just fit together.
15. I love the way you make me laugh.
16. I love the way you laugh.
17. I love the way you won't compromise yourself when we are together.
18. I love the way you won't let me compromise myself.
19. I love your thoughtfulness.
20. I love your tenderness.
21. I love your ability to speak without saying a single word.
22. I love the way we glance at each other across the room and know what each other is thinking.
23. I love the way, how even though we may be miles apart I still feel like you're right here with me.
24. I love the way you surprise me with the perfect gifts that show you pay attention to me.
25. I love the way you'll watch a sporting game with me even though you may not be interested in it.
26. I love the way you treat my friends.
27. I love your love for the things that interest me.
28. I love the way you let me live my life freely without jealousy.
29. I love how you demand respect but are not controlling.
30. I love how I would do anything in this world to make you happy.
31. I love how you would do anything in this world to make me happy.
32. I love the way your voice sounds over the phone.
33. I love the way your voice sounds when you whisper sweet nothings in my ear.
34. I love the completeness and oneness I feel when we make love.
35. I love your sensuality.
36. I love how our romance feels like the perfect romance movie.
37. I love how you are my soul mate.
38. I love the way you handle troubled times.
39. I love the way you respect me.
40. I love the way you protect and defend me.
41. I love how you feel when we cuddle.
42. I love the softness of your lips against mine.
43. I love the softness of you lips against my body.
44. I love the feeling of your hair brushing against me when we make love.
45. I love laying in bed at night talking about nothing,
46. I love waking up to find we've been cuddling together all night.
47. I love the surprises you leave for me.
48. I love your intelligence.
49. I love your ingenuity.
50. I love your ability to make friends where ever we go.
51. I love your love for life.
52. I love your passion for your hobbies and interests.
53. I love how every time I look at you, you take my breath away.
54. I love how I thank God everyday for bringing someone as wonderful as you into my life.
55. I love the fact you gave me the gift of our .
56. I love the special moments that we shared that will remain my fondest memories of you and I.
57. I love spending the holidays with the one person I love the most.
58. I love how my heart skips a beat whenever you walk into the room.
59. I love how you love me.
60. I love how I love you.
61. I love the ways you choose to show your affection for me.
62. I love the way you inspire me to be more than I am.
63. I love the way you spark my creativity and imagination.
64. I love the way you make me feel like anything is possible as long as I'm with you.
65. I love your sense of humor.
66. I love the way you make me feel like royalty.
67. I love the way you dress.
68. I love your understated elegance.
69. I love you just the way you are.
70. I love your spontaneity.
71. I love our life together.
72. I love how if I died right now I would be the happiest person alive knowing I found my one true love.
73. I love the fact that we will grow old together.
74. I love your way with words.
75. I love the way you look when your sleeping.
76. I love the way you think you look awful when you first wake up when it is actually then I find you the most beautiful.
77. I love your willingness to share everything and most especially your heart with me.
78. I love your strength of character.
79. I love taking showers together.
80. I love the way you leave me love notes to find whenever you're gone.
81. I love the way you treat me.
82. I love the way you take care of us.
83. I love your cooking.
84. I love the way you take the time to thank me for doing every day things.
85. I love the way you show your affection when we are around friends and/or family.
86. I love the way you are not scared to show your affection when we are in public.
87. I love your confidence.
88. I love your ability to make me feel better when times are tough.
89. I love the way we make up after a fight.
90. I love how you treat our .
91. I love the way you support me when I'm off track.
92. I love the way you take the time to show me how much you love me.
93. I love your beautiful hair.
94. I love your body.
95. I love your openness to try new things.
96. I love your ability to talk things through.
97. I love your courage to be you.
98. I love your greatness.
99. I love the fact that you want to be with me and only me.
100. I love how I am and feel when I am with you!
101. I love you for you!
What are your reasons that you love your partner then?
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