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    <title>Asia FriendFinder Blogs: The Life &amp; Times of an ABC</title>
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    <description>The thoughts, life, and times of an American Chinese guy. Life can be strange. My fraternity brothers always said I should write a book about all the crazy things, ideas, and occurrances in my life. Even in college, my brothers knew my conservative personality and clean cut appearance didn&#39;t mean a boring person. I&#39;m not crazy, but I have been places, had experiences, and seen events for many lifetimes in the last 10 years. I have known joy, happiness, the greatest times of my life, and felt extreme pain. I have done good and bad. The good has led to great memories. The bad has led to regrets and some of the most meaningful lessons of life.[COLOR firebrick][B]I CAN ONLY READ ENGLISH COMMENTS ON MY BLOG, BECAUSE OF THE WAY AsiaFriendFinder IS SET UP. PLEASE POST COMMENTS IN ENGLISH. THANKS.[/B][/COLOR]</description><item>
      <title>Life always leads to pain, even unselfish or true love</title>
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      <description>Aug 19, 2009 6:29 pmLife is strange.Sometimes two people can have so much in common on the immediate surface, but the similarities are so shallow that it's as thin as a veneer.Right now, my girlfriend</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2009 17:02:18 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>When tunneling thru life, make a small tunnel or risk a cave-in</title>
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      <description>The trick is to stop trying to impose order and let the chaos be. Instead, organize as small a path as possible in the disorder and squeeze on thru, because the harder you try to control something the</description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 08 Sep 2009 16:46:02 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>The biggest con</title>
      <link>http://asiafriendfinder.com/blog/5402/post_190434.html?od=asiafriendfinder&amp;site=ffz&amp;pid=p45128&amp;m=</link>
      <description>"The truth is I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. Th</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 03 Sep 2009 21:40:00 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>She won me over</title>
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      <description>When I first met her,I was heartbroken over anotherWhen I met her,she knew I liked herWhen we started dating,she knew I cared for herbut was jealous over anotherWhen I won her heart,she cried knowing </description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 18 Aug 2009 23:17:42 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Pain reveals a wonderful world, if you overcome fear of it</title>
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      <description>It's in pain that I've learned just how special the small things in this life arefrom the sun shining on our facesto a child's smileIt's just now that I learned how wonderful this world isbecause I've</description>
      <pubDate>Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:07:59 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>What do you deserve?</title>
      <link>http://asiafriendfinder.com/blog/5402/post_186113.html?od=asiafriendfinder&amp;site=ffz&amp;pid=p45128&amp;m=</link>
      <description>What do you deserve?May 26, 2009 2:33 am"Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve &amp; desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight." - Mark VHansenThe </description>
      <pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:52:46 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Running Against The Wind</title>
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      <description>Running against the wind....you learn when you get older, if you're lucky...otherwise you end up old and life's a bunch of regrets....but the luckiest ones are those that listen to the truth from thos</description>
      <pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:51:41 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>why do the scales always balance out?</title>
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      <description>What goes around comes around-justice-karma. Why do the scales always balance out? Maybe it's built directly into the individual &amp; society? If someone believes in God, this would make sense. It would</description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2009 14:42:48 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>real love - forever - a gift or a curse?</title>
      <link>http://asiafriendfinder.com/blog/5402/post_183414.html?od=asiafriendfinder&amp;site=ffz&amp;pid=p45128&amp;m=</link>
      <description>4/27/2009 10:17 pm"Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants is, everybody seeks it, but fewer ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it and among all, never..ev</description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 06 May 2009 22:39:52 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>The steel half-pipe toilet - Part 1</title>
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      <description>The steel half-pipe toilet Jan 19, 2009 8:10 pmIn the period after I broke up with my fiance years ago, and was depressed, I left her a voice mail about how funny the half-rectangle steel toilet was </description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 22 Apr 2009 21:17:55 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>running from our sins</title>
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      <description>We pay a higher price running from our wrongs than if we faced up to them.We spend more time hiding from responsibility than if we simply took personal responsibility and admitted to our wrongs.Look a</description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 22 Apr 2009 21:02:50 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>To survive a fire, you feel it less</title>
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      <description>To survive fire, you learn to live with the heat.To have gone thru emotional hell, you learn to not walk the path that led you there the first time.To avoid the pain of being let down, you learn to ex</description>
      <pubDate>Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:37:21 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Beauty and kindness...of these, kindness is the better and what lasts longer</title>
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      <description>"Beauty touches the eyes, kindness reaches the heart." - Marie, 19My friend is very emotionally intelligent for her age, or any age for that matter.In my younger days, I looked to much at the outside </description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 19 Mar 2009 23:05:04 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>love and believing a lie for it</title>
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      <description>"When you are deeply in love you will believe anything to keep it, even a lie." - someoneYes but only if you want to. In the end, how much "you did not know" it was a lie, deep inside you know.I've se</description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:04:07 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>The last 2 weeks - regaining my new life as a non-traveller and having a local life</title>
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      <description>The last two weeks have been challenging and stressful at work, but nothing like the stress of when I was on the road as a consulting with all the deadlines, heavy workload, and lack of long term soci</description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:12:13 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>The need to believe in something great than ourselves.</title>
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      <description>"Republics, Democrats, it makes no difference except as an excuse. It used to be left - right. Now it’s east - west. Problem is by the time the ideals of "freedom", "democracy", "capitalism" etc even </description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:06:29 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>For all the broken hearted people ---- Christian Thoughts on Love-Trust-Faith-Forgiveness-Repentance</title>
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      <description>Christian Thoughts Important messages from God and Christ I recently studied in the Bible, in Sunday school, and in church services.Love and Trust - The two must be present together. Love without trus</description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 17 Feb 2009 22:58:39 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Real Love lasts even with a permanent seperation</title>
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      <description>Gladios:Love lives on hope, and dies when hope is dead;It is a flame which sinks for lack of fuel. Why love if losing hurts so much? I have no answers anymore;Only the life I have lived, The pain now </description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:45:36 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Tough Times and Tough Moral Choices</title>
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      <description>It is in the worse of circumstances, when stress is high, when we are short on money or some other form of deep trouble, that we can see who we really are.Being good in good times is easy. The questio</description>
      <pubDate>Sun, 18 Jan 2009 05:45:09 -0800</pubDate>
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      <title>Where is God?</title>
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      <description>It is in our periods and moments of greatest weakness, not when we feel or think or even believe we are unable to go on, but when we truly cannot continue anymore, that God steps in. Often we don't ev</description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 2008 01:50:45 -0800</pubDate>
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