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Emails From Total Strangers My goodness, gracious. My mailbox keeps getting full every few days from total strangers who don't even match what I'm looking for. I wonder if these men are smart enough to read a profile written in English that I'm not here looking for romance, just some friends to exchange thoughts and ideas with. Besides, if I'm looking for friends to hang out with, why would I be interested in someone on another continent or a distant city that I have no desire to travel to visit? In addition, why would I even want to waste my own money to meet a total stranger who might or might not be what they claim to be? On the other hand, why would I be foolish to place myself in harm's way to visit a total stranger? Most men who write to me don't even share the same interests that I have nor can they even keep up with me in discussing the things that interest me most. I'm not interested in hearing about whatever it is that interests them, I can google it and probably get a better understanding then wasting time listening to their lame-brained explanations. Anyway, I really don't want to waste what few opportunities that I have to send an email, courtesy of Asia Friendfinder to people, I will never meet, nor do I have the desire to be in the same space with. I save the opportunity to send emails to people I've grown to trust and whose conversation and ideas that I respect here in AFF. However, I'll probably use this venue to post some of these emails and maybe it will shame them enough so that why won't even bother to send me an email or anyone else an email if they know that others are going to be reading what they write. Or, for those of you who don't know how to write a letter, maybe you might find inspiration in how not to write a letter from these posted examples. In the meantime, enjoy yourselves. I do enjoy reading some of the individuals who freely share their thoughts through these blogs. I feel sad, though, that some of my favorite bloggers are no longer posting. Enjoy VICKY Killing time this evening 'cause I am waiting prepping some lab rats for an experiment tomorrow. |
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9/29/2008 5:46 am |
I highly suspect lee and rejoice are one and the same person. rejoice abused lee´s blog so often for her own vendetta and lee did nothing to stop her ever. Lee even allowed Parisian and his gay friend 100Albert to participate in her blog without any warning or what so ever to stop their personal fight. rejoice also published private email,from others, for her own purpose, thats why she cant see why this post was wrong. She has to open her eyes. No offend made, god bless. 
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9/20/2008 8:16 am |
this should take eveybodys mind to a new level in human interactions.. it's a whole different trend of thought... it should make you laugh, it should make you think... and hopefully.. it benefits some to lighten up about life... we are simply men and woman.. in a world of many things.. this should put some perspective to it... hope you enjoy a good laugh.. and it brings the light bulb in your life to shine bright.. and see how not to take everything so stern, that it constricts living .. and stomping thru the weeds of life.. trying to get to the green pastures of living.. lady vs woman man vs gentleman
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9/19/2008 1:27 pm |
To answer touch's latest question here, I'd say that YOU have impacted upon me in that I feel deeply sorry for you. is that good sorry, or bad sorry ..  if it's "good" passion filled sorry, I'll be sure to get me some vitamins and energy drinks and build up my stamina ...  if it's bad sorry... I'm not sure what that would mean ?
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9/18/2008 12:52 pm |
come on people.. enough of the bullshit. .. so she made a mistake, we'd shared our commentary, and It's not unlikely that she has acknowledged that it came across and ruffled much of many feathers.. and what is life.. mistakes that teach us how to not make mistake, mistakes that teach us of other things about life and how we address it and how we can better address.. and in the spectrum of reality.. everyone grows... in this life.. many more mistakes will be made by many more people.. and we still are individuals who want to move along with life.. and give ourselves time to adjust and give others time to adjust.. and everything in life and living is a process.. and we all move about it at different paces.. so .. maybe it's enough mud slinging.. because now.. people are slinging mud about who's on who's side.. and it's not progressive to nor for anything... now talk about anything... if you want... I'll throw the subject on something else... "New Subject"... "DID ANY OF YOU HAVE AN EROTIC OR FRIGHTENING DREAM IN THE PAST MONTH"... ok... if not.. what the heck did you dream that impacted you one way or the other....
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9/17/2008 8:49 pm |
In fact, I think one could go further than to say posting another member's personal letters for public consumption within this site is not only a bad idea that runs opposite of the spirit and intent of the site--It would be an action worthy for consideration as abuse of this site. If a member posts personal letters he/she receives for other members to see in an attempt to damage (humiliate) another member (especially a member who pays money to participate in this site!!), it would probably put the folks who run this site on shaky legal ground if provisions were not in place to protect its members from such actions. Long story short--it's probably in the fine print somewhere that you are not allowed to post personal emails from other members in an attempt to humiliate or otherwise harm them, and if you do you likely will be removed from this site. Vicky might want to check the fine print.
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9/17/2008 8:12 pm |
from sayhellotuu, "It is the fact that you are a celebirty in public ,making you feel so boring to be disturbed by strangers..." Umm, what...are...you...talking...about? I'm not quite ready to call Vicky a "celebrity." But I'll call TMZ and double check her celebrity status if you like. people, people--it's bad news for anyone to post letters they've received from other members. Bad idea. Restrict your mailbox, don't be a jerk. No matter how annoying. You can report abusive members or you can restrict your mailbox. Any fool knows this.
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9/16/2008 11:14 pm |
(posted in another blog) I think over all.. ( as an angle of view) It may not be right, to publish peoples stuff, but I think what she was saying is:: ______________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________ I think she was saying, "damn!!!.. if you guys can't talk to me, about more than telling me how pretty you think I am, or how much you want to get in my pants, and trying to get me aroused by your pranks and etc,.. then don't write me.. and then she was telling them, if, you keep writing me talking about how pretty I am, and how much you want to get in my pants, and how much you think you are this and can do this or that, and you have not even talked to me, or shared a mutual introduction and created a friendship.. through talking about what I think or what of life I care about or anything; and you have not even taken the time to know me, even after I have asked you not to send me this stuff, then.. since you can't understand anything.. then, I'll just publish your stuff and expose you for the acts of silliness that you are doing... _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ ________________If I am wrong then let me know______________________ Vicky is cool, in her ways.. I think she is a young woman with a lot of varied passions, that may be even more than she knows.. and greater than she can find ways to share, or people to share it with as she feels it about life and living... and we all have our issues with the general format that people follow in the standardized relationship and other things, of how people meet and how they communicate..... women now days don't want that... they don't like guys to think he own them, or that he can just take from her at his whim and want, without her having a say it in.. and coming straight for her panties, without finding out whom she is as a person. Lif is not like it use to be, where women looked for men for security, and so they had to accept different things, but now days, women can make their own money, and have their own stuff... so they don't need a man in those ways for those things, so they are not putting up with being a "piece of meat" nor do they accept being pursued as if they were a piece of meat" ora pleasure outlet... they want to be seen as a person.. because not, they .. seek men to share with.. not because she needs him.. and that is a very big transition of how life has changed, from the time before, when women could not work, they could not get an education and all they did was make babies and take care of home, they now live different.. so the way they approach and want to be approached is different.. they like being desired and wanted, just as much as anytime before.. but .. they are concern about how they are engaged as a person... because they are not seeking out men for the support of finances and the security of home... they have their own money..and their own home... it's like anything else in life.. a person, who is relying on another to provide shelter for them, will put up with more than a person who has their own... so now.. she can spend her time getting to know you as a person.. not as a need filler.. and you as a man, can get to know her as a person.. not as someone you need to provide her shelter... and can dictate stuff, as if she has to comply to maintain having the shelter... so now they seek someone to share with.. as persons..on a equilibrium.. a young woman as her.. I've met women with high spirits, and always, after a few weeks I'd find the things within her, to match with what she feels of life's flow... and open her expressions to a whole new level, that she'd not fight, but embrace... I doubt that she has met a man that can take her manner of expression and it's interplay, of sarcasm and wit, and humor, and give her the reflection back that she really wants.. to engage it, that has such types of variations.. in her blogs, she often speaks of wanting and enjoying dynamic feedback, and interacting.... in life. for many young spirited women.. it always takes a man, who can take her challenges and give her challenges, while at the same time, giving her resolves of various reciprocations. if it's not that, then she would become bored quickly with a guy who can't or don't walk the walk and talk the talk, at the pace and dynamic that she likes, while at the same time, being able to be sensitive without becoming fragile.. and yet with enough gut but enough depth to not be a brute, but be a man who can grip what he needs to grip and let go of the grip when he need to let go... she already knows young boys can't do it ...and she knows that it's found in men who are man enough to know himself... but as with many young women.. they face the delima, of wanting the young fresh face boy look but wanting to find the stature of a man, and that is not easily found in young fresh boys., what I gather from her writings, is that she is aware that some guys when they start to engage women sexually, they think they own the woman.. and don't know when to be dominant and know when to let it go... to get in the bed and rock it like two people going wild, but not coming out of the bed room trying to control her entire life.. many woman .. think that.. they want a guy who can get in the bedroom and take it how it comes, and work with it like a mad passion, but don't turn around and think that he dominates her entire life.. or act like he is the master of her body and dictate when she performs.. As with many women.. they don't want a man to get it, or take it, while he is displaying and showing an action like he has an attitude to think, she is obligated to do it... many women are very sensitive about that .. because there are many guys, who think soon as they touch a woman, that he owns her, and that she should submit to him in everything, and they don't like that.. they don't mind if you play a bit of .. force play, as long as it's play acting, and not a force, as if it's trying to dominate her or take from her what she does not want to share... under such a mindset, as if she is some toy that he has control over.... but if a guy can work with it, and such.. it only makes things for a woman, have more passion play.. that does not diminish her ability to be freely herself.. out side of the bedroom, as well as inside of the bedroom.. if you not in her other posting, she said.. in so many words, that she does not want the situation, where she feels it's a duty.. that functions like a routine, which becomes a "duty"... which become a burden because it's become like a duty.. and many women when they get frustrated, that guys are coming after them, with a straight out.. "get the panties" attitude.. they get fed up... it's not that they don't like being desired, and wanted.. but they want to be wanted as their whole self.. there was a girl on here a long time ago.. who would get furious even if someone said she was pretty, even thought she knew she was pretty, she was frustrated because people were telling her she was pretty, but not really talking to her about things of life, and things that she showed interest in, they would quickly talk about how pretty she was, and take the conversation from the subject, and make her being pretty more of the subject.. and to many woman... when men do that.. they don't think they are being taken as a serious person as a whole being.. but only being patronized... and more focus is about her looks, that what she is talking about as to the subject at hand... so they .. quickly want to get away from that situation... but if we think about it.. everything in life, takes a balancing act, to flow many different ways.. and if guys too think about it.. and consider the long term realization of dealing with a woman... as a man, you are not going to be tripping on how pretty she is all the time, some days, you will be wanting her to have something to say about something... and we can see it all over the world.. women.. are everywhere .. working very hard to be taken serious... becase there are many who think men don't take them serious as a person.. and see them as simply a pretty accessible pleasure being.. I know guys that don't even talk to women about certain things, when it's really to me strange, because why not talk to them, about anything, they live in the same world we live in and see the same stuff we see.. I'd, say... keep writing your blogs, and post about things, that interest you... and people will still communicate about what's written.. if the mails are irritating, see if there are means to block what you don't want... I think I've seen people block their mails, so only people in their network can write, or people who match their profile and maybe they have other means to block it.. I've talked to a couple women on here, who get naked pictures from other women, and some get invites to do video naked cyber sex from other women... and anything that is imaginable.. someone is going to try it... simply because the nature of the internet's capabilities make it possible.. so ... use as many filters as you can.. and delete the rest... then you control the content, that you choose to engage, and not engage that which you do not want to... that's probably the easiest way to deal with it.. relax, and be pretty if you feel pretty, and be what ever it is you feel like being... and it may make it easier to over-come the image of being selfish, elitist or such things, that come across when it's approached by brash means... and ... it will be easier for people to simply see you as you care to be seen... the initial response of all of us.. is pretty much.. the same... as saying... "hey !!!! calm down.. and get down a notch, and see what you are dealing with in a different manner... or it will make you seem like you are placing yourself above others.. and our comments said, that is various different ways.. But ... I personally things your intention, was as I wrote at the top of this ... and if others read it, I think it may give a different light to the whole matter..
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9/16/2008 12:29 am |
i'm a good ole fashion gentleman, if my grammer isn't up to par or not havin a PH.D oh well. travel alot? i'm heading to Okinawa, Japan. later
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9/15/2008 9:02 pm |
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9/15/2008 8:48 pm |
The reason for me to write this comment today is because I remembered how sweet you were when I asked you help to format my photos on my blog she was helpful on a recent blog, I inquired about how to convert language text... I think that was very nice of her to do so.. maybe she is afraid of things, after her experience.. but in life.. we have situation, and we grow beyond it by working throught it.. and then we take the dare to keep living, and keep trying... the only thing finite.. in our spans of life.. is death.. "it's finite" as far as we know of what it is, in relation to what is living.. chin up, girl.. and engage life... and let life engage you... it's the only experience you will get at living, because when it's over, it's over... and non of us are looking forward to that time.. so enjoy what you got ... share what you can.. and make the best of what there is to experience... we all call it the same things.. "LIVING"... I personally think, she would benefit in having a baby before 30 would do good.. she may find things never imagined .. about sharing.. to be the inspiring glory in livin
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9/15/2008 7:43 pm |
My bf is a dutiful hero where Uncle Sam sent him",. Of course, a woman in love with a soldier can only be misguided -- if the guy is there, he surely is a dumb guy believing he fights for his country whereas he is simply being abused by the Bush Family and Friends oil interests and the US armament consortiums. the sad truth is.. many of the women, are ill prepared to deal with many of these returning veterans... not even many of the counselors are prepared to deal with them.. I have a friend, who was trying to work with the Military Psyche unit, to set up a program, and she asked if I could help her develop material, but they don't even have their program frame work to the level they want to get it, so they are slow to take on new clinicians.. so my friend is waiting on a response. while they are still trying to develop a program to deal with PTSD... and they have across this country, many VA places that are scrambling trying to find out how to set up contracts with people who can help these veterans.. soem of them come back very frazzled, and they have great needs of adjustments.. sure they need women.. but the military is not setting up training for these women to develop skills to cope with the issues that come back with many of these veterans, especially those who have been on the front lines and seen things that are far beyond what we as everyday people can imagine..and walking around day after day not knowing if they will be blow up... why not look at the increasing suicide rate, and the other things some of these people are dealing with.. and if one is already selfish... it is very unlikely they will be willing readily.... to give up any of that selfishness to the degree that it may require to build a suitable relationship.. I talked with a lady at the VA, who drove 80 miles to bring her son, because they had nothing in her local region, and she said her son, had to sit in the back seat, because he was thinking the "markers' in the streets may be those explosive devices, and she said, he does not even sleep in the house, he has put a tent in the back yard, because he feels, he need to be able to hear if someone is coming up on him, this lady .. told me.,. she does not know what to do, or which way to turn, and how she could not keep her job, while at the same time driving him back and forth 80 miles.. and she was pleading with them, to just pay for her to go to a clinic in her home town, and she could not get the approval... so these problems are not some fiction.. they are real..and they affect peoples lives in dramatic ways..as well as the veteran... so people need to think about how to prepare themselves for what they claim... some of these people come back missing body parts.. they never intended to loose.. and they have to have a very giving and compassionate mate.. when they return... But hey... maybe she is more capable than any of us know.. because we don't know her beyond her blog... but.. I personally think it's more a sham.. to justify her, staying in her selfish circle.. but that's just a wild outside assumption on my part.. and the truth of the matter.. it's not my business one way or the other.. so I'll deal more about the nature of challenge of special needs that come back with many of these veterans... because .. war changes people.. in ways that we know nothing of .. how that impact interacts within the individual.. as to blogging... I wrote a blog about some concepts and ideas about cancer.. because I researched a lot when my sister was sick... I think it's quite ironic that someone who is studying this and preparing rats for test.. had not one world to say on that blog.. and it is a blog that deal with her field of specialty... so.. what gives on the intellectualism"... even if my blog was off base.. it's stil subject matter... especially for someone, who puts at the top of they blog.. that .. no subject is out of bounds... All I will sum up to say is.. the blog community is simply a collective of people from around the globe.. talking about stuff and life and things within living.. and everyone is a stranger to the other until they engage interaction.. I met one woman from here... she did not have to fear me.. nor did I fear her.. yea,.. I'm a man and she's a woman... and it's not a issue that the thought of hooking her up.. was a natural thought that exist in people... but she did not get cornered into having to address it one way or the other. this assumption that men are animals, because he likes sex.. as a natural human being.. is no different than living blind trying to pretend reality is something other than real..
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9/15/2008 7:20 pm |
... in truisms the implication may denote, that one has an elitist attitude, and shows a great deal of generalized bigotry... "why don't you guys say it like it is"... she has posted about this on other occassions... and she has the big head of thinking that she all that a bag of chip.. she talks all this stuff about "intellectualism"... but she does not engage much of it in her blog, she gather some internet data and put it up, but she does not engage in follow up with her own commentary, unless it's sarcasm.. she goes from one picture posting to the next, showing off her fashion ideas, or what she feels will give her the desired princess look... and all she has been saying over and over in a multitude of ways.. is that she is better than everyone else.. and too good for any man... and she is above communicating with people.. As to e-mails.. I sent her an e-mail about her business when she said they had to move.. and offered up some ideas for expanding the business beyond what her father created... why boast about it, if you can't take what your father built and build upon it and expand it, rather than fold over and move because challenges are to be faced, If her father had ran from challenges.. the business would not exist.. She looks Ok.. but there are countless faces on here, some better, some the same and some as they are.. as to her tripping about dating, and then boasting about being a virgin, what difference does it make.. everyone was a virgin at one point in their life... But what she mostly says is that she is a self centered young woman, who has and chooses to act like a teenager in certain respects, she has said it in her own ways, she is too selfish to share anything... she does not even share with her friends as she said, where her house is, so she is more interested in popularity, and riding the ego of feeling desired... is her "high" .. now we can say the same things in more appeasing manners.. or we can say it in openly "non politically correct manners"... Her title probably tells of the ambiguity .. one says shy Asian Girl, and the thing about the Jessica Rabbit ,.. denotes "being a Tease".. and delighting in it... and then publicizing the fact that people write her.. as if to say. "look at me, I'm the most desired person here".. I don't care how many people write to her, and if she has the callousness to post these young or old guys posting, what does that prove.. nothing, but she does not respect others enough to show those people who write her enough discretion to regard them... if you don't know them, you also don't know how fragile they may be, and she'd damage them, just to elate herself... I think thats very sad.. !!! so what a few people would like to bed her down.. that's what men like is women they would like to have in bed.. it's no damn mystery.. it's been like that since the beginning of human beings.. as people thats what we do.. male and females have sex with each other.. that's life.. besides, she does not have enough stamina to bang them all even if she wanted to.. so why worry about it.. bang the one you want, or sit on it till time makes it stop working... either enjoy the site, relate as desired, and when not desired, then don't.. that's all it is and that's how simple it is.. there are people.. who block their boxes, and only take mail from people in their friends network.. so that's an easily resolvable problem.. no matter what anyone thinks of themselves.. we are all just people... degree and money don't mean a thing in the bottom line.. money don't make relationships last.. and many people with degrees have some of the most screwed up relationships.. just like anyone else.. but , to say in 50 different ways.. "I'm selfish and I'm self centered, and it's so extreme, that I can't relate with people or date people"... now .. is that how simple it breaks down to be.. Relax.. sweetie... it's just life.. we live and time will come when we won't... and in the meantime.. life is an engaging experience.. that's it... and we make of it a few billion different experiences... No I don't mean to hurt you... and I'm sure I have not... but what I am saying... is simple... "it's life" .. share it or don't.. but either way, does not make any one person is any better than another. and it's for darn sure.. no one can know anyone without first communicating.. and there is more beneath the surface to know about all of us..
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9/15/2008 6:33 pm |
I agree with Nan--why don't you just restrict your mailbox? I would like to believe it's because you are dumb, but more likely it's because you are mean. I need to agree with Nan on another point--why do you put together a profile on a dating site, complete with photos you surely thought were your most attractive ones, and then act shocked when guys write to you?...my goodness gracious, is it because you're an idiot? Maybe the ones who wrote you were strangers who were lonely, sure. But you come off as the one who is sad, unhappy, and a bit like this site's version of Borat.
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