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1ClassyLady 68F
3120 posts
2/9/2019 1:08 pm
How to detect scammers?

I have filed divorce for near 15 years and been online dating sites for 14 and 1/2 years and dated 75 very intelligent men from various sites. I've NEVER been scammed, knock on wood. I am educated person, I won't be scammed. I have lived in Southern California for 38 and 1/2 years, there are many smart men live in So. Calif. to meet.

When I went on Asia Friendfinder (my 1st dating site), I was just turned 49 years old, younger and prettier. I was full of anger from my lazy dentist ex-husband, I full-on to find intelligent, educated and successful male friends.

I am a pharmacist and my training is to be very cautious. Only a fool or stupid person will trust scammers. Read their profile, emails very carefully. I don't like the profile full of "down to earth", "I like to laugh", "walk on beach", (who doesn't) ... that didn't mention his career, profession, job, ... I don't want to talk with stupid people. The age range and distance have to meet my criteria. I provide my first name in Asia Friendfinder profile, if the person emailed me without address my first name, I started to suspect him. Normally, the scammers wrote very stupid emails to praise my smile, and said "if you don't mind" ... Their emails are copied from standard form letter. They are very stupid. You should easily identify them. You should have your intelligence when reading between the lines. I am a person using my brain, so it is not easy to fool or scam me. I like smart men that I can talk to, so what kind of profession, career, ... are very important to me.

How to block a member on AFF?
On your Asia Friendfinder front page, top right hand corner, there is your user's name with a triangle next to it. Click that triangle, choose "My Account". On the 3rd column "Edit Preference", click the last one "Block Member List". Type or copy and paste their user's name in the box under Member, then click "View My Profile". Don't forget to click Add. Those scammers will be block from everything, i.e. blog comments, Sending emails, Search Result, .... Don't reply their emails, don't sympathize a loser. They will get you troubles. Usually, scammers don't go on "Blogs" so they don't know my blog. Scammers use fake profile, fake location, fake photos, ... they provided their email address, phone #, or social media's ID, ... to contact outside. They sent the same email to hundred of women and wait for one or two stupid person(s) to get on their hook. I have seen too many, posted many scammers emails and photos. If you read some emails can't use correct English "life is to (too) short to ..." , "their profile" to be "there profile", ... I stop reading.

After I wrote profile on AFF, I got many responses. My first date was an attorney from UCLA area. He drove an hour to meet me. We had emailed many times and exchanged . He was mad about me because I was stupid to wear my diamond ring from the marriage. He immediately said "what is this?" pointed to my ring. I said I just filed divorce 4 months ago. Anyway, we met at Starbucks and had dinner at a restaurant. He dated me twice, but one hour driving and busy schedule for him and me. Then the communication got less to zero. However, he still reading my profile for at least 7 or 8 years after the meeting for twice. I hope he will read this blog because everything I said is true.

Before I step out to meet that person, I asked their names, profession, I Google them. Their profiles are different. I started from their career to talk. If they are MD, I can Google them to find out their clinic offices. PhD can talk their fields very specifically. Attorneys have their characters to show their intelligence as on courthouse. CEO are very rich and have entrepreneurial charisma.

I have fallen in love with a banker CEO/Chairman for over 12 and 1/2 years since June 2006. The first date I met him was in his bank HQ, he was very busy for 4 banks (locations). He is very knowledgeable about interest rate and investments. He taught me how to invest at what timing. I became 7 figures of my assets. He emailed me daily, talk about mostly real estate, stock market, politics, religion, current events, ... except ROMANCE. He lost half of his assets in a divorce and daunted ever since. He is my best friend. I have blocked his email in 2017 when Trump announced "cut income tax from 35 % to 21 %. He was cheerful for Trump but I disagreed and blocked him. When he found out I blocked his email address, he stopped to correspond with me. I was worry about U.S. national debt went sky-high if rich people don't pay for their share of tax obligation. Anyway, he resumed text message with me since I texted him at LAX and told him that I was flying to Italy for 36 days. He finally replied by texting.

I know how to ask questions with CPA, engineers in different fields (aerospace is the best), commercial airline pilots, orthodontist (on AFF), .... Yes, all 75 men I dated really who they said they are. No scammers, no cheaters, ... You just need to know how to identify a good man from a scammer by reading their profile, emails, asked questions, get their real full names. Don't bother by scammers, just follow my instruction to block them. I am NOT a scammer, so I know how to recognize the real persons.

Put your profile in different sites, be honest and believe in yourself. I gained knowledge and friendships from dating. Best of luck in your searching.

Honesty is the best policy.

1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
2/14/2019 12:01 pm

Today is "Valentine day", so I want to talk about dating. Dating is very difficult. First, you need to find a person you like and trust him. Then, you met him. There are different political opinions, different religion beliefs, personalities, distance, .... How much you can compromise or tolerate? I know who I am and who I want, but they don't come as you ordered from the menu or catalogue. Frustrated.

As for me, I keep the friendship not marriage.
Because as my previous blog Andy Rooney talked about women over 60.

Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage. Why?

Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!

I am a financial independent woman, don't need to depend on a man to make a living for me. To marry a man, you have to accept his good and bad behaviors, attitude, .... the whole package. But keep friendship, you only need to take his advice.

c'est la vie!!! Wish you find your valentine and happy with him or her.

Honesty is the best policy.

1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
2/9/2019 8:20 pm

I was the breadwinner in the past marriage. He kneed down to propose me and promised me, if I married him, he could obtain his "Green Card", "Social Security #", eventually become U.S. citizen. He failed CA dentist license exam for six years, I helped him to pass the license exam. He said he will make money for me. I paid the construction of a empty space to be a dental office. However, he is a lazy couch potato, watching TV, reading newspaper, .... Not working hard. I worked at the dental office while pregnant twice for 4.5 years. I saw him not making money, so I went out to work as pharmacist full time. He stashed his earning to himself, not sharing any money. I was disappointed, despair, for 17 and 1/2 years. He lived free house, drive free car, eat free meal, free property tax, free insurance, .... I paid for everything literally. I filed divorce.

Once bitten, twice shy. A failed marriage taught me "don't sympathize a loser". So, no scammer can near me. I know what a loser look like. I know how to detect the scammers. It is a piece of cake.

After near 15 years separation, I felt happier. I can meet many interesting guys, go to travel where ever I wanted, whenever i wanted.

Every online dating site has scammers. I always block them. I realized the scam has got even worse since 2008 financial recession. My advice is "trust your intelligence, use your instinct to guide you". Don't ever send money to anyone who you've not met. Money in your pocket is much safer than giving to scammer. Don't get mad that scammer chose you or ask "why me?" Just block them, delete them. Out of sight, out of mind.

Honesty is the best policy.

1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
2/9/2019 1:29 pm

When I've worked as full time pharmacist at a Kaiser hospital pharmacy, one MD who lives in Beverly Hills, came to Kaiser and he saw me in pharmacy working before I met him. He knew I am real pharmacist and had a job as I told him. So, I learned from him, I met many men right at where they work. I met an internist MD right at his clinic. Met the banker CEO at his bank, .... I know their working addresses, ... they know where I worked, so no scammer, no cheating. I trust them, they trust me. No money exchange, no scammer. They paid for the drink, lunch or dinner, that was it.

I am a "smart cookie", I am honest, so I attract smart and honest men, vice versa.

I hope my blog can help you to identify scammers and how to block them. You need to protect yourself.

Honesty is the best policy.