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So many of you Beautiful Ladies in AFF but What are you really wanting? I often see the same Beautiful Asian ladies on line day in and day out... What are they really doing i think to myself. What are they really wanting or hoping or looking for? One actually told me that she decided she didn't want too see me due to me not being alone long enough,WOW!!!! what a crock of S**T... thinking i just may still have feelings for the last one that would rather love her Christianity than me...you know the answer here...NOT GOING BACK EVER!!!! I really think ...what exactly what everyone has been telling me on my other blogs...most of the Asian ladies.... which is really a shame are looking for riches and treasures fast... That`s really too bad.Too many of you Asian Ladies have been brought up that way it really is... And the sad thing is you may be alone for a long long long long long time.... Feelings are more important than quick gain,chemistry is amazing.If you find your true connection riches may come but they may not but gain definitely will come... In today`s world it takes two to make things work.. May you all find happiness in Love not quick Gain!!!! Peace Out Paul |
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11/13/2012 5:14 am |
Hi Mindy Thanks for you honest comment,its a shame you took so long to respond..i am leaving Asia Friendfinder as of Nov 20th. But you should think of getting membership fee soon then you could read emails and see Profiles, Me being GOLD member can read ALL profiles. That is why i sent you a message i liked your profile. But you now say cant AFFORD a relationship due to upgrading your course... HUMMM i don`t know what that should have to do with going on dates on weekends. But that is your choice and we must respect how you feel... Anyway i wish you luck and be careful on here.. yes lots of garbage on Asia Friendfinder as i have come to find. Take care Paul
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11/10/2012 6:12 pm |
I have read so many heart felt posts on here ,and i am sad to say this will be my last month on here as of the 20th i`m gone, i am really disappointing in what i have found here on AFF.Yes it has opened my eyes to the sad truth of Asian ladies in general. But i think if Asia Friendfinder would have a instant messenger box when the person you want to chat with came on... i think would have helped get the ball rolling faster...and having GOLD members to send emails to standard members and paying is just crazy...anyone whom gets a letter should be able to open... So many ladies will be and have been on here so many years... WHY? ANYWAY!!!! I want to thank all of you whom have helped me open up this can or worms... some great advise... others!! well i will just say what ever !!! On a happy note i did happen to date a Asian woman from ANOTHER site this weekend she is so real and Down to Earth and here`s the kicker she`s 50 and GTA North York Area.. Yes i did feel out of place being the only white guy and we had a bit of an English problem, But we still had a great time and hope to continue.. i hope  ...I say good luck to all.. Paul ( Bramman )
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________________________________________ You have stated the most simple to understand realism, and still as you say.. None of them will be waken up just by reading Paul’s blog. I am not kidding. people will continue to barter based on the same delusions, people will continue to chase illusions, and some even get caught in the grand delusions of finding some perfect match, or as some call it a 'soul mate", and most of those only remain in the delusion of soul mates, as long as one is agreeing to everything the other says'.. (Notice I said , One is agreeing) I did not say both are agreeing with each other.. but the minute there is the disagreement, the first thing out of the one who has been getting all the agreements unto their utterances, will quickly claim, that 'they are no longer soul mates".. People create many delusional games in their lives.. and reality slaps them every time, to wake up to the fact that 'any and every relationships will be about 'what two people HONESTLY come to terms to MUTUALLY agree upon from their own individual stand to do so, or it will find discord. Sex is no more than one thinks it is at the moment they are focused upon it, and one does not get their way about something unrelated to sex, they will make a judgment against sex, based on their dis-satisfaction about something which is not related to sex. Women will try and use looks to manipulate whatever they can when there is the available opportunity to do so, and they will do it often if they think it’s not detected.. And the same goes for men, based on his looks or his money and if he has looks and money, he will use both to try and manipulate things. People are mischievous.. Until they learn that honest is the only pathway for love... Love does not support mischievous, nor does it give itself to dishonesty, in the face of dishonesty love by its very nature, will not rest until honestly becomes the foundation for it to be itself. Love is the pains of learning as well as its the joys of celebrating what is learned. Love is the truths that set each free, and truths are the realism's that let's love be all it can be. You can't cheat love.. Because love is and will always be what it it is, and it is the best of the honesty of living truthfully. When people can't live with the lies they created to pretend to love, they find turmoil and discord at every turn. they become contentious and combative and deceptive acts become to consume their mind in seeing ways to incite to fury or drive stakes which promote anguish. All in their escape efforts to run from their own lies, and seek to lay blame on anything and everything except themselves. Love by the force of its reality, will make one enjoy many things within living or it will make one’s life filled with cycles of hellish challenges, if the acts and efforts one claims is not of honest and done in the lights of truth. No one hurts the other, but people hurt themselves, by their acts and motives as well as their blindness to the acts and motives of the other.. Love is about open eyes, open minds, and open hearts and the openness to live within the reality that light shines upon. If money is your love, you shall find the miseries that money has tied within what it inspires in people. This includes the good, but the bad comes when you are continually faced with the things people will maliciously do for money. Love will not in and of itself be abused by persons, but to disrespect it will bring one to abuse and mis-use themselves, and then they try and blame it on love wrongly. And still Love remains what it is. Until people choose to respect love for being all that it is, then claim not to be in love with anyone. Because one has not given the respect unto love for being what love is. If you got the hot’s for someone sexually, you better know that is what it is, and don't try and pretend it is love when it’s not. If you got the lust for someone’s money, don't try to pretend its love, when you know it’s not. Of many things, choose... choose not to pursue sex with someone you don't respect, you may not be in love with the person, but you should respect them as a person... Sex with people you don't respect, will bring you a level of disrespect unto yourself. People don't understand this simple rule.. It takes mutual respect and mutual agreement to pursue sex outside of love for that sex to be mutually respectful of each person.. But be Aware, that love can creep in and if it does it will force each to seek truth of its existence, and if it it is not mutual, they will be forced apart by their acts and actions toward each other. You can't fool Love... but disrespecting Love, can and will make you make a fool of yourself.
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Perhaps you are right but I still think there are something we should stand fast all the time even in the hard time, such as intergrity, honesty, self-respect...Everyone loves money but it shouldn't be gained by the way of cheating or begging. If you don't repect yourself, others don't repect you, either.
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bramman replies on 10/18/2012 5:14 am: beyondfantasy3 Thank you again for another good posting.. i really wish the Toronto Asian Ladies would come on here and read these responses it may or may not open some of these ladies eyes,but i am in hopes of at least a few that just might see the light at the end of the tunnel instead of being alone for a very long time, i have read a lot of profiles in here and i see a large amount have been here for a while. That`s a shame. Paul Paul, its unfortunate but may women don't want to hear the truth and many will deny the truth when they hear it, because there are very many women who think that thing between their legs can control the world of men.. it never has and it never will but it certainly is possible that it can destroy her life and make hell in the life of men, by the games and manipulations some women encircle it with. Nothing beats an honest woman and no woman is of much good who is not honest. the most she can become is like an albatross to the man and a destroyer of her own visions of love. but many women live based on the shape of their ass, or the look of their face and they rely too much of the lure of the spot between their legs. It's really a dis-service to the nature of what is woman. It is very much a challenge to find woman who actually appreciate a man without measuring his wallet or measuring whether he will do favors or make drastic changes to accommodate her whimsical testing games. What a massive waste of time. I personally don't allow women to waste my time in such ways, nor do I choose to waste my time in such ways. It is such a shame that as adults we have so many delusions that we allow to cloud the truth that we know. I think it would benefit many of these women to go to senior citizen complexes and take note of the many single women and the nature of their situations. I think many women could learn a lot from the women who threw away good men chasing the fancy of illusions and the vanity of her own confusions, only to realize when it is too late, that she should have put in the work to make it work. rather than expecting someone to play kiss her butt all the time games for the sake of her ego. foolish things will always produce foolish things in the end result... but youth won't allow many women to come to that realization. Soon as two or more guys compliment some of them, they go stone crazy and some become insane listening to other women tell them stupid stuff such as, she deserves better. she does not deserve any more than she is willing to put equal and honest work to build. but many are looking for ready made easy... because they are spiritually lazy when it comes to being willing to work to make love work.
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10/18/2012 8:36 am |
You are the best, just now many women think Value material and money are important, but there are many good woman in the world,they are honest、sweet and friendly,for they husband，not leaving without you , so please believe that god will traction a perfect woman to you, just a matter of time, believe in yourself. best regards
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Princess.. you are always honest and that is such a refreshing realism because you are outspoken with the truths. Thank you for telling women, they will not find happiness by chasing or looking for money or a green card.. and thank you for telling the men, not to look down on these women because he may have more money, or thinking that they are by any means the best options a Chinese women can find. Because Chinese women can find a good man in China, they have been doing so for a 1000 years. Now if a Chinese women likes you and you like her and both of you are honest about liking each other, then "RESPECT" will be the centerpiece of your relationship. these women are not toy's and nor are they a novelty, they are women, who are no less a woman than any other woman as a cultural group. As with any and every cultures, there are gold diggers and scammers, it is not exclusive nor is it excluded from any ethnic group.. But likewise so, there are good women of every ethnic group. If people relate openly and honestly not only will both be enriched in spirit, they may even find love within the hearts of each other. If a man is not able or willing or read at this particular time to go to China, then don't lead the lady on... If you are able and ready and can go to China, then be honest with her about it. If you can't afford to help her come to your country, be honest about that too. I personally don't try and make a love relationship with a woman in China at this time, because I personally know I can't at this time afford to go there, Nor can I afford to help her come here. If my economic situation was different, then I'd be more interested in building a specific relationship.. At this time, the best I can be is friends. I don't do things that will lead the situation in the wrong direction when I have not the means to follow that direction. So most of all people need to be real. I write a lot about the many things women can do, and the many things they actually do, as well as many thing many are capable of doing. But the point and fact is always the same.. to say to women, "make no game" and thing will unfold better for you.. Fact is: if you don't like what you are doing, you won't like what you will get. if you make a game, then you might become the game. so,, be aware to be aware.. the same applies to men.. As people, the game does not work. !!!!! number one, because peoples emotions are real, and their feeling are a reality... don't abuse it and don't mis-use it... One thing people need to realize, is" money is money, it will remain being money but that will not make it produce for you happiness.. because happiness will come from within you, then you have it to share... if you are not in that mind set, then you will find the troubles you seek..
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This is not going to change any time soon... Remember, this is still a country that favors boy babies over girl babies, therefore, the under current if for the girl to grow up and catch a well to do or wealthy man, its a lot like the saving face and the family face thing. Many of the women probably don't even know they have been groomed as such, but it is not much different than in the Western society, where women are taught to go after men with titles and social position. I think Western men do make many wrong assumptions about Asian women's phycial appeal. they somehow thinks how she looks has something to do with honest and sincerity.. it does not, that is just how she was born to look.. As they age if as you can see women from some area change a lot.. this is no different than Western women, youth looks fresh and all that, but no matter where the woman is from - age will have its impacts.. So all that means is, once pretty has been the attraction point, any man would do himself well to learn her character and not get deluded by the personality antic's that are common and many within how women put on the game faces. If any women is going to be good at loving, it is because she has chosen to be so... but that does not mean all women make that choice. sometimes women will be with a man for years, but she has not stopped shopping for a better deal in her eyes of more money or more social status. Sadly, most of the women who are of desire to make a relationship work, are many times the average looking women that we too often as men, walk right past them, on our way to chasing an illusion of a pretty face. Pretty women can be a very distinct type of a challenge and in some cases problem, because some, not all, have some very vain expectations. Look around.... you don't see a lot of these whom you say are really pretty able to maintain a relationship for very long. Life is a trip and people are too.
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