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Damianyajuan2 53F
41 posts
5/5/2019 2:33 am
how can you find out a real man ,who can share your experience?

I joined this date site for 6 months ,met so many men asking for my help with money ,no matter what reason ,but the last purpose is for money ,so I know there’re too many liars on internet and also on this date website ... although I met so many liars and also was cheated too much money ,but I also believe there’re still real men here who wanna look for a good woman just like I wanna find my real love , I know what I want , I know what kind man I need , but I just hope he’s real , I don’t want to be cheated again ,don’t want to be hurt again , that’s all .....I know I’m a real woman ,also a good woman ,maybe you are a good man ,but sometimes I can’t believe my judgment..... how can you find out a real man ,who can share your experience?

Lily20145 60F
887 posts
5/5/2019 4:04 am

Learn from your mistakes then slowly you can find someone he is real.


Damianyajuan2 replies on 5/5/2019 7:26 am:
But it’s always so difficult for me to find that right one , it makes me confused!

XiWangdeXin 70M
146 posts
5/5/2019 2:33 pm

You have to give the dating process time. Anyone can lie convincingly over a short period of time. It takes time to get to know someone well and that time is also necessary to see if they are consistent over time.

You can't be in a hurry. Here in China, many women don't care who they marry. They just want a husband as soon as possible. Since the first of the year, 7 women here have refused to go on any dates with me unless I first promised to marry them and buy them a house. That is just so far out of line by my values.

I know Chinese women get a huge amount of pressure from everyone around them to get married--to whom is not at all important to many. But if you've been burned before, that is your lesson to learn. Take your time and try to get to know him,--his thoughts, feelings, successes, failures, dreams, hobbies.....just enjoy his company. If one day you wake up and realize you just can't imagine NOT spending the rest of your life with this person, THEN and ONLY THEN should you begin to consider if marriage is a good idea.


Damianyajuan2 replies on 5/5/2019 4:40 pm:
Yes You are right ,I agree with your opinions so much ,I’m not so hurry to just find a man to marry , I know it needs to take some period of time to know a man very well ....
I never expect anyone to give me anything ,I just need someone can understand his woman ,can really love his woman from the bottom of his heart no matter what difficulties she met , they both should cherish each other and respect each other,they should feel comfortable together with each other ,but I found there’re so many men who speak perfectly and but at last they all will talk about money ....

XiWangdeXin 70M
146 posts
5/5/2019 2:34 pm

p.s. Love that painting! Is it your work?

Damianyajuan2 replies on 5/5/2019 4:48 pm:
Thank you for loving this painting,it’s not my works ,I love its color too .

1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
5/6/2019 10:20 am

NEVER, NEVER, and NEVER trust any stranger who asked you for money. NEVER, NEVER, and NEVER sympathize a scammer or a loser. Most important is "NEVER, NEVER and NEVER remit or wire money to anyone."

I have NEVER been scammed, KNOCK ON WOOD.

p.s. I want to correct your English. Every "punctuation mark" 標點符號 immediately follow by a word. There are no space in a word and a punctuation mark. There are one space AFTER "comma" and there are two spaces after a "period" in between two sentences. All the English writers should know this rule. I have once corrected a Chinese woman on this website. I have been in USA for 39 years. All the English writing follow this rule. I can't help myself to correct your English "punctuation" error. Read my English writing in this comment, all the punctuation mark follow immediately by a word, no space.

Honesty is the best policy.

Damianyajuan2 replies on 5/6/2019 6:17 pm:
Thank you so much, I will remember your words forever, NEVER BELIEVE ANYONE IF HE ASKS ME FOR MONEY,NO MATTER WHAT REASON...

Thank you for correcting my errors in writing English, I’ve never paid much attention to punctuation before, now I can understand that the blanks in those sentences can be confusing. Thank you so much.

Damianyajuan2 53F

5/6/2019 9:46 pm

Thank you woaini1947
I've already read your messages carefully many times, I'm agreed with you opinions, you are very experienced on this side.
The facts also told me if I have any doubts in something, there must be something wrong.
You don't need to change yourself to suit the needs of a man, the best lifestyle is you both are satisfied and comfortable with eath other's inborn characters. If a man real love you, he will effort all his possible to meet you.