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Many Perspectives of Attitude

By living today, we build what become tomorrow. We must know what was within Yesterday, to understand what we are faced with today.

It's Interesting
Posted:Apr 5, 2023 4:20 pm
Last Updated:Aug 26, 2023 3:18 pm

This site has lasted far longer than a lot of sites.... and its still going without a mass of advertisements. Because of its format, its appears over the years that it does not sell peoples info like Facebook.

It's rather interesting that the population has decreased as it has.
Have long time members done well through COVID?
Posted:Dec 26, 2021 8:20 am
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2022 5:32 am

Hopefully, people have done well and made it thought COVID to date.

Hopefully vaccine are available and being taken to improve protections from more severe impacts from the COVID Virus.

It appears likely that many of those who had been here years ago, no longer come to this site, since there are so many options when it come to social platforms.

I mostly write on Forums, yet, I come here with less frequency than in previous years.

I don't care much for Facebook and etc.... I prefer places where I can write about varied subject matter.

I have found whether its sites like this or various forums, that people are very brief with what they post. I've never been a fan of "brevity in such ways". It has time and place, but not as a standard format for me.

I prefer to deal with details and related factors and etc. Most who have ever read any thing I write, likely know, I'm not into "one liners" commentary.

COVID has taken out many people globally, and those people had thoughts and ideas about their future, and some were cut shot by the impact of the virus.

I say to any and all... Take Care and be with the best level of cautions that you can to protect your life.
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where did the people go
Posted:Dec 20, 2021 4:43 am
Last Updated:Apr 27, 2022 5:10 am

It seems the majority of the site's active blogger's have all gone?
Social Platforms
Posted:Oct 25, 2021 6:16 am
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2021 6:17 am

It appears that people seem to have gravitated to more highly populated social interactive websites, away from these independent sites that are not based on publicly traded companies.

Will this trend change?

At some point, people may not want to be profiled for advertisers and sold as the commodity; for such public traded companies websites.

One upon a time, sites like "My Space" was all the rage, but things changed and Facebook took that role, but now Facebook has become a "monopoly" with many tentacles, and people's data is marketed at a level that is beyond comprehension.
When sites use that data to create algorithm's. to funnel content, people may come to learn how they are being manipulated and no longer are making independent choices as to what they consume as content.

When many come to understand the programming is programming them, they may find that it is no longer the desired outcome they were seeking.

People are also finding their life esteem is being manipulated and causing conditions that are not unlike "Bi-Polar" episodes in their lives, they may find they no longer want to be on advertising dominated sites that are driven by advertisement revenue pursuits, as their sole objectives.

Sites such as this, which don't flood its users with advertisements, might find a way back to higher usage by people. How they profit to stay afloat, I don't know, but they do have a subscriber systems. Though the questions is will people pay to not be bombarded with advertisements?

This site also does not allow "links' to other sites or content, which can be a good things, it does not connect people to content that may not be accurate, so people can choose for themselves how they research content related to anything that members might choose to discuss.

What ever happens there has to come a big change in Social Platforms, especially those that are owned by Publicly Traded Companies such as Facebook. When such companies that have vast monetary resources, it's a bit more difficult for the forces to drive them to change.
I suspect that in the coming times, Facebooks will be broken up, and there may be legislative policy that can prohibit them from finding alternative ways to monopolize social media technology platforms.
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People and "choices"
Posted:Sep 25, 2021 10:44 am
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2021 5:40 am

As people come to learn the true value of the gift of life... it opens up people to learn to appreciate and respect the days of their lives.

They invest to learn, they invest themselves to share, and they give unto themselves the strength of will to "care".

There is no repeat of seconds that come and go, therefore each second is the gift, it should be valued and treasured to give and do ones best in living a good and honest life.
One can lie to themselves, and it will cause one grave self deceptions.

Therefore... Appreciate ones self, do not measure self against another, nor measure another against yourself, and you remain free to grow, learn, adapt and change.
No one can live your life for you, people can simply "share'...

If more people understand that, they may find there is less need for contempt, there is less need to allow situational or momentary anguish become full blown anger.
Anger will not bring a positive resolve to anything, and can blind one to the good they may otherwise learn to give, share and do.

Be with great care in your "Choices'... they make up your living experience.
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Where have the people gone
Posted:Sep 19, 2021 7:30 am
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2021 10:05 am

Years ago this site had more people, it seems more and more fade away as the times move along.
Has COVID resulted to take the lives of some members?
Has there been so many social media platforms that many have just gone to other platforms for their communications.

Often people did not engage much commentary to things shared, which means the lack of interaction by people is more critical to the shrinking of forums and blogs.
Anything that advances advance because people engage it.

As a site that claim itself a dating site. People failed to use it respectfully to actually engage communicating that actually bring people to know each other.
Scams, and criminal motivated deceptions has done much damage to many websites.

It's when people engage responsibly that gives a site its enduring credibility.

Where are the people?
Why Beauty is so Enticing....
Posted:Apr 18, 2021 7:15 am
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2021 7:24 pm

Why Beauty is so Enticing....

Well, there is no single answer!!! We can be thankful for the principles of "Attractiveness".. It is always unique and individualized.

It brings people to be moved by the spirit of attraction. We look, we see, we think, and we become with focus to want to know more. We want to make interaction and sometimes we just want to look and appreciate.

The Spirit that was put in the natural nature of man and woman to see each other with an attracting passion is an amazing thing of beauty in and of itself.

The design of the human being is beyond comprehension of all that makes each of us whom we are.

There is no one set of feature that denote beauty, regardless of the media image of what it calls "models"... beauty goes far and beyond just those images.

We can be thankful for that, or we'd all be clones of such models. That would take away from the principles of the "uniqueness of each individual".

Not only is Beauty an attractions, it carries and brings forth passions which energize us, its makes us smile instinctively.
What ever it is that creates the spirit of beauty, can't simply be defined by any one thing, because we are so much more as the "whole person" which we are.

We have such a world where beauty and appreciation, spans not just in the realm of people, but in nature, the wildlife and all things that God Created.

We simply have to relax and appreciate it.
Get a Broad Perspective.....
Posted:Apr 17, 2021 9:02 am
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2021 7:25 pm

CAUTION: Read slowly, its too many factors to try and rush read.

Jan. 6 showed the world the bias, bigotry and racism and it also showed the ignorance within those who attack Democracy and the U.S. Capitol as not knowing, not understanding and not wanting to understand or respect American Democracy.
This was a tragedy, I think all of them should be jailed, and treated as domestic terrorist who engaged sedition, subversion and terroristic acts of treason against and upon American Democracy.

They are no different than the Southern Confederacy of the 1800's!!!
Trump riled them up in the bid to try and promote a recreation of 'white dominance" of the same type that was the basis within the Confederacy.
He chose the lest educated, the under-educated, the mis-educated and even some who claim to be educated, but have no respect for the Civics of American Democracy.

Trump at this time is trying to create Mar-a-Lago as a office of a Shadow Government, (The same as the Confederacy), he has told his cult to donate to him, not to the Republicans, (both are Rabid!!! anti democracy).
Trump for a period does not have to disclose what he does with the money.

There were many Anti Democracy White Nationalist embedded and some still are in our government and in our military.

See news article:
They're the military's most elite. In secret online groups, some spew racism, conspiracies.
Carol E. Lee and Anna Schecter
Fri, April , 2021, 3:30 AM

These people were very collusive in Jan.6th, Treasonous Terrorist Attack on American Democracy at the U.S. Capitol.

Trump has long planned the attempt at a Coup d'état !!!! he started as soon as he got in office, pushing disinformation about election, and setting up the insane series of meeting at Mar-a-lago. He brought in Bannon, and other Right Wing Racist, Bigots and Anti-Democracy Types, and the revolving door of the Cabinet position was nothing more than a pursuit for "Submissive Cultist", he spent 4 yrs trying to be a Dictator, ignoring Congress, and abusing and attacking every Department, Division, Agency and Organization of American Governance.

Too bad this site does not allow links: but Google This:
Why America is the World’s Most Uniquely Cruel Society
Or, How Punching Down Became a Way of Life
umair haque
Feb 19, 2018

It's give a good concept to why there has been so much chaos in America based on Race, and Country of Origin, and General Non White Ethnicity.


The good thing is, there are more Democracy Loving Americans than there are these Racist, Bigots, Anti-Government and the Illiterates of what is the Civics of American Democracy, they don't understand the Republic Form of Representative Governance ... So, they try to deny the fact that America is a Democracy that chose a Representative Form of Governance, which by definition is a Republic format of governing.
Which means, America is a Representative Governed Democracy.

I don't care much for willful ignorance and willful Illiteracy about Civics of American Democracy.

Those who always scream, "My Constitutional Rights" are often the most willfully ignorant.
They ignore the fact that "The Preamble' is the cause, reason and purpose of the Article of The Constitution, and its duty is to meet the principles and standard laid forth in The Preamble.

Trumpism is about "Authortarianism by Dictatorship" and that Dictatorship is based on the promotion of White Dominance, through White Nationalism... so the "America First "crap" was nothing more than a racist based whistle.

American has been involved in "Globalization since its creation of The Declaration of Independence. Those bigots and racist and other such types, are driven by a mentality grooming of "Attack Something". It does not matter what it is, their daily agenda is to "Attack Something". The whole agenda behind the creation of Right Wing Media, was designed to "Attack Liberal Policy and Liberal Principles".

See the more people come to learn and invest themselves to understand, they can see why there is such crazy types of the Right Winger, and the word Conservative is nothing more than a covert fictional term. It's about "Conserving the Confederate Styled White Nationalism", and when they say "Fiscal Conservative", it only means... block and stop funds from going to anything and anyone that does not fit the criteria of the historical white nationalist ideology. Truth is shown when Republican expand the debt at every time they are in office, they crash the economy and take back the gains the people had made, and then they give the wealthy a Tax Break, to ensure they have a motivation to try and deny funding public and social programs, but they never cut the subsidies to the wealthy Industry and Corporations.

This posting is basically informational... because people who engage these forum rarely engage subject matter of any type to any level.

One thing for sure that has been exposed is the widespread willful ignorance that exist in the White Nationalist and White Dominance agenda and the types who promote it and support it.
They are blind to the fact that what they support has no concern for "poor whites" and "working poor whites", they are considered as disposable collateral damage, used like pawns and foot soldiers... The exact same as The Confederacy, used them to protect the wealthy plantation owners and wealthy industrialist.
The Confederacy system of Republican has no concern for Economic Equilibrium among the masses, they will as they have shown, attack anything that has any design to help poor whites, working poor whites, minorities of any ethnicity, women and immigrants.

When immigrants come to America, they need to let go of the delusion of being thought of or seen as equal among right wing white society, and stop submitting themselves to supporting the same bigotry, bias and examples of racial divisiveness expecting that it will gain them the measure of being seen as equal among white nationalist. Do not diminish yourself in such ways!!!!
If you come to America, embrace the Liberal Policy, that embrace the principles of respecting Immigrants of all ethnicities.

Stop buying into media spin, and learn the history, learn the civics of American Democracy.... and if any come to America, come to join a Multicultural Society and to do so, leave your bias, bigotry, racism and classism and do not think that money can buy equality, its comes through one character and respect and integrity to respect and see others as "equals".
Looks Like "Most People Vanished" from the site
Posted:Dec 31, 2020 1:40 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2021 12:28 pm

Looks Like "Most People Vanished" from the site --

Is everyone safe during this Pandemic?
Writing on Forums
Posted:Sep 20, 2020 11:11 am
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2020 11:40 am

I've written on a variety of Forums.... What I find most irritating is the mass of forms that is filled with "One Liners"... Even on Debate Forums, people have so little to say.
As to this site, it is listed as "Friendfinders"... the troubling thing is, how do people expect to find friends, when people don't talk about very much.

The world will always have those who become tyrants, because people are in many ways passive.
Some places where tyrants already exist, "passive or silence may be the better options to preserve ones life"...

It may be decades before societies elevate where there can be peace among people and nations... because we as people find that we get trapped under the tyranny ... because there are many people who love being "Serf's" even when don't think that is what they are submitting themselves into and unto. Other's want Authoritarian to dominate them, because they don't want to think for themselves and don't want to make decisions, so they vote for and support the authoritarian who spews the most belligerence, Others are dependent, where they think the wanna be tyrant will promise and give them something without them having to do anything themselves.

There are places where leaders take the lives of lots of people, and some support such types of leaders, and the people who's lives are taken become the victims of those who support the brutal tyrants.

One does have to have some thought about what's written, and in some places people have to be even more careful than in other places.

It's sad when Leaders silence the people and dictate over and unto them...

It's a tragedy when Authoritarians enrich themselves at the expense of the people, and then complain about the same people they have gained their wealth from.

The Monster Mentality of Mankind generally shows itself vividly when one gets power, or amass wealth....

Some who put people in position of leadership and the leader don't want anyone to say anything, critical or call out wrong doing, or speak and don't worship them.

So... I'm sure for some it's likely the safe thing to read and not comment,

It does not help improve interactions, but I'd rather see people safe, than to speak in an environment where their life could be threatened just for speaking their thoughts.

As for those who come to websites to scam others... Those types are low life's they function from a mindset of being "Savages".

You can easily identify these Savages... because they start asking for stuff, when they barely know whom they are talking with and have never even met in person. DO NOT GIVE YOUR MONEY AND DO NOT GIVE PERSONAL INFORMATION TO SAVAGES

Do Not post on any Website what you have of Financial Resources because it will only Temp a Savage to Try and Connive and Scheme.

I've never had a problem with Scammers - I guess they know what I write about is not something that would lead a Savage to think they can get something they did not earn for themselves.

Some people advertise themselves, as if they are willing to "Buy A Mate' and it is quite likely that type will get scammed and scammers will be attracted to such types.

Old Men who present themselves like they want to be a Sugar Daddy, will get the Gold Diggers who want to taken care of, but they have nothing to offer in a Fair and Equitable Exchanges... and the minute you stop paying and spending, they will be gone, and probably have two or more others they are running the same game on.

If you come across as a SX addict, you will get s_rewed!!! and you have no complaint because you asked for it....

If you act despaired and desperate... you are inviting someone to use you... and you will only increase your despair and amplify your desperations.

APPRECIATE and RESPECT YOURSELF.... and TAKE YOUR TIME sharing and Take your time getting to know someone, It should never cost you money nor become a situation where you send another person money to make a friendship.... and don't pretend and don't convince yourself that you are in love with someone you have never met and never spent time with!!!!! Even when you spend time, if they soon start asking for stuff.... you may find that you've been set up to be conned!!! KEEP YOUR MONEY TO YOURSELF!!!!

When they know they won't get anything... they will find their way to move on. Beware of the Long Gamer's who try to reel you in, the minute they come with the 'hard luck story"... and the "sob story' and expect you to send money.... It's time for you to move on... and cut ties.

you can preserve your integrity and save your character and your dignity... to learn these things of how to keep Savages Away From you.... MAKE SURE you get to know the other persons friends, not just one friend, but get to know a few of them on your own terms... before you invest too much of yourself....
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